A Domme and Her Special Submissive
• BDSM
Much of what goes on in the world of happy, voluntary sadomasochistic play is really outside the expectations of the 'vanilla' majority.
Take Goddess Vanessa and her special submissive Sebastian:
What's really special about Sebastian is that he's really gone beyond engaging in these practices for personal sexual gratification.
For him, it's really about the sacrifice and the service.
So when we get into heavy flogging, it's important for him to be in a sacred ritual space.
We don't engage in any verbal back-and-forth. It becomes a moment for meditation and silence and contemplation.
The only thing you usually hear is the sound of the whip on his skin.
I've achieved the power over men that I experience through, first and foremost, being able to feel complete control over myself, being able to define for myself very clearly what I want to get of a relationship.