SSC: safe, sane and consensual (BDSM)
• BDSM
The closing of Denver S&M club prompts an examination of BDSM play by Ricardo Baca in the Denver Post .
About 15 percent of adults have a hankering for kinky sex, multiple studies agree. Even more telling: 50 percent of the populace admits tasting some sample of quasi-kink, from biting and giving hickeys to spanking or restraining their partner's hands during sex. ...
"There's the misconception that the pain is nonconsensual," Martinez said. "When you're making a third-person observation, it certainly looks painful, but that's not understanding the ... psychology or, for that matter, the sexual desire that accompanies it, much less the advanced negotiation that goes into it." ...
Sadomasochism has often been described as "erotic psychodrama," a sort of make-believe play. For those who join in, the resulting high is often compared to the buzz gained from deep meditation or a killer aerobic workout. ...
"They like the illusion of fear," Devon said, "but they want to know that, deep down, there's nothing bad that's going to happen. ...