Secrets Of The Bedchamber
» Erotic Technique
Ancient Chinese sex secret mentioned by Jonathan Margolis in his essay on the search for the perfect orgasm.
“But don’t you long for a guy who can keep it up for hours?” I would ask women friends. “Sometimes,” they’d reply, “but if that happens, you suspect he’s either incredibly vain, didn’t fancy you – or was gay.”
There’s a serious point here, too. It has long been known that the best way to avoid premature ejaculation (whatever your definition of that) is to have sex with a woman you don’t find attractive – or at least to pretend you don’t find attractive. Su-nii-ching Fang Nei Chi, author of a seventh-century sex manual, Secrets Of The Bedchamber, wrote: “Every man who has obtained a beautiful crucible will naturally love her with all his heart. But every time he copulates with her he should force himself to think of her as ugly and hateful.”