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Femdom Sissy ≠ Transgendered Person

• BDSM , • Gender Outsiders: Transgendered & Others

In skimming around the web I've run across a couple of ostensible theorists of gynarchy whose attitudes towards transgendered persons trouble me.

One approach is to pretend that transsexuals don't exist. Otherwise they might upset the already fragile construction called female superiority.

More annoyingly are those that seem unable to distinguish between the varieties of transgendered persons and guys who want to be "sissy maids." They transpose the Femdom game of sissification as a form of humiliation onto crossdressers, transsexuals and gender outlaws. One can only speculate what effect their words may have on a transperson that runs across them.

Who better to turn to for a corrective than a transsexual Domina:

Anyway, what I am saying is, when I hear about “girls who like to humiliate sissy boys” - especially when they use wording involving the word “deserve”, it sets alarm bells off. Obviously it’s just a form of gender play like race play or any other roleplaying. But how can you be sure?

Gender Wars - Sissy Men, Transsexuals, and 'Dominant' Women

Richard Evans Lee
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Being in the local bdsm community for over 4 years now I feel that just being transexual to any degree black-ball's you. I have such a hard time trying to even distinguish if the person is just looking for some sissy male to dress up at times or a real 24/7 pre-op trans. Being pre-op is much harder than post-op in the bdsm world. It has made me almost feel as if I'm a pirate in a group of people I would like to associate with. Koneko

Posted by: Koneko | December 27, 2005 03:19 PM

Oh, it can workout, trust me. My lover is a pre-operative transperson and she is also the dominant partner in the D/s part of our relationship. While I tend to think of the D/s community as open to pansexuality and transgenderedness I’m sure there are plenty of people with bad stereotypes and clichés in their brains.

Posted by: Richard | December 27, 2005 06:07 PM

My boyfriend is a post-Hormone therapy transexual, and the tales he tells of being arbitrarily excluded from play-groups and sessions simply for being between male and female makes me want to bash heads together. Believing that one gender 'deserves' humiliation is disturbingly sociopathic.

Posted by: Thiscorrosion | January 10, 2006 07:52 PM

I'm a pre-op TS, and I've been treated with courtesy and respect at every event I've been to in the Southwest. I've been treated better by the bdsm community than the TS/TG community, so when it comes time to decide who gets my time and support, its a no brainer for me. I think a big issue of distinguishing between a TS, and the 'sissy maid' types is looking at thier daily lives. A TS lives as a woman by thier choice. A sissy is usually only a sissy when someone 'makes' them do it, and otherwise lives a nromal life as a man.

Posted by: Isabelle | January 16, 2006 06:08 PM

Being Tg is not a choice its just a way of life, sorta like i like pink and you like blue, people think its ok for lesbians to be hot but gay men to be sick. that is more then the worse sterotype imaginable.i am TG and have been this way since i was 4, i remember the first day of kindergarten wearing my sisters ruffled panties to school.. only cause i got bust that day for it.. But it doesnt make me a bad person.. I love a womans body and thats why i desire to have it, ther are sexy and hot.. vrey hott... i have had implants and that took m\e a lond ways. but it still comes down that people just think im a freak,, well i think people are a freak for eating.. i prefer women over men but men prefer me over women and women prefer women over me. so where do i stand. A SEXLESS LIFE? I dont think so.. I get what i can as a way to the end...

Posted by: Sabrina | January 19, 2006 10:05 PM

First, what a wonderfull forum. this one has just begun exploring to being a pre-op m-f slave. my prospective new Master and Mistress are very supportive and i believe even appreciative that this one is a female, yet still has male genital. Master wants to train me to be the best woman\girl slave i can be.

Posted by: Leslie | March 7, 2006 08:23 AM

I guess I am the FemDom sissy type. I have no interest in hormones, surgery or a transformation for myself. I just enjoy the taboo of wearing nylons, heels, skirts & the like. I love the feel & look & feel very submissive that way. This seems to make me an outcast in the BDSM community, too; people have said I am stopping my natural development by not 'going all the way'. Finding that special someone to share this with has been difficult & I still search.

Posted by: stocking wearer | April 25, 2006 03:56 PM

How do you feel?

Feel free to share your feelings about Femdom Sissy ≠ Transgendered Person. Please stick to the theme of the entry. Disagreement is fine. Homophobia, racism, and kindred expressions of hatred will be deleted. This site is one of my hobbies. I genuinely enjoy hearing from people and hate moderating or killing comments. Forthright disagreement is fine as long as it is civil.
My thanks,
Richard

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