Penis Size : Myths and Fears

penis size — funny thing… I never thought size would matter. I always believed that it wasn’t the size, it was all about how he used it. While that is still somewhat true, after all a man with a penis smaller than the average can be a fantastic lover with enough staying power to send me heavenward, AND yet a guy with a larger cock can be an awkward buffoon who blows his wad in 3 strokes. This being said, i now know — with out a trace of doubt — that i prefer the best of both. Ok, yeah, size matters. But so does “talent”. i prefer both, sorry…

An unusually small penis lacks erotic visual appeal. A huge one – depends on your conditioning I guess. There’s no getting around that how your lover’s anatomy strikes your eye will control how aroused you become. (It may be eyes or biceps.)

A thick penis on an unskilled lover can make up for his inability to a tiny degree because at least it will produce plenty of friction.

Sure erotic empathy and sexual technique are most important but a man who has those and is handsomely hung and you have everything. A small guy who can’t even use it is the worst.

If size does mater, then there must be SOME way to increase its size. What can a small cocked person do to make their mate/master/mistress/slave happy?

Phalloplasty: penis enhancement surgery is the only real option. No herbal pills or exercises will do anything.

There are people who find men with small penises sexy. A few butch gay men and and dominant women.

I have a small penis, and it’s always been a drawback for plain intercourse. I’ve never ever heard any woman say she just loves a 5 incher; ridiculous. All women love a huge, girthy penis, period. All men I know want one. It breaks my heart that I’m so small and that it is not possible to fully please a woman I love that way - it destroys your confidence when you see the disappointment in her eyes the first time she sees it.

i have a small penis and balls ,but getting over your first date and she knows the size.i havent had any comment.married now 23 years,at errection 5ins girth not that big either so any guy should come out of the closset and show it,why not have a small penis convention we may all feel better

hey dont be sad there are loads of us with small cocks.still manage kids and still have loads of sperm in the old bag for another day

I have a small penis, and, it is very cruel, what the media is doing, and what women say. A woman can be fat, have a big nose, anything…but all those things can be taken care of w diets, surgery, etc. A man can not change the size of his penis. I am devastated, and, I feel women are really mean creatures. I feel thay belittle me.

Wow. I’m going to say this and qualify it IMMEDIATELY because I don’t want it to be misunderstood.

This is just sad.

I don’t mean it’s sad that guys are endowed the way they are, or that they are somehow deficient. I don’t mean it’s sad they find themselves feeling deficient, either.

It’s sad that anyone would have to be concerned about this, that they have to spend so much time feeling insecure and inadequate, that they have to be subjected to ridicule for something which is no more their fault, in the end, than the color of their skin.

I’m sorry, but making fun of a man because of the size of his penis is about as mature, not to mention completely f**king asinine, as jeering at him for being “a dumbass nigger”. It’s stupid in the EXTREME, and I can’t stand it.

So, I know I have said some of this before, but I’m going to say it here again, specifically to the men who are worried about this.

The reality of penis size and the myths surrounding it are very different. In fact, they are so much so, I would be willing to bet almost no one you meet has clue one as to what males should be like when it comes to “endowment”, but I would like to take a bit of time to speak to at least two of the myths and realities of our little Richards, at least size-wise… just so those who are worried enough to seek out this page or post on it might find some sort of reassurance.

1 MY PENIS IS TOO SMALL…

This has to be the most common lament of males not only in our culture, but worldwide. We seem to have this idea rooted in our minds that a real male should have genitals measured in feet rather than in inches, and that more often than not our penises should be hard enough to smash stones down at the local quarry as we spray gallons of semen all over the landscape like a non-stop firehose.

God knows porn doesn’t do anything for this, with freaks of nature who have spent literally years learning how to trick out one cum-shot in a thousand to be REALLY impressive convincing everyone else the normal performance of normal males is going to somehow be less satisfying since women don’t seem to scream like they’re being flayed alive when WE have sex with them.

Look, here’s the thing. Chances are, your penis is average in size. Frankly, you’ve got several things going against you judging your penis size against others, and while you may be loathe to think about some of them because it means, for every insecure heterosexual male out there, that you’ve been paying way more attention to other men’s penises than you’re allowed to and not be called a queer (gasp!), they’re all true and chances are, they apply to you.

First off, you’re not in a good position to judge the size of your own penis because your head is stuck in the worst possible position to decide how large it is. Human beings consistently judge the things they look straight down at as being smaller than they actually are, so as you look down at your penis (erect or not), it’s going to seem smaller to you than… say… that sidelong glance you got of the penis the guy at the urinal next to you had.

Believe it or not, it’s largely an effect of optical illusion. Things really do look larger to us if we can look up at them from below or look at them off to the side. That’s going to make everyone else’s penis seem larger than yours unless you happen to be hung like a monster.

The reality of it, though, is that penises are probably one of the most standard body parts found on humans when it comes to size.

Men’s perceptions of how large their penises are, especially compared to the penises of other men, vary widely and more often than not leave whoever you ask either sheepishly admitting they don’t feel like they stack up, or else boasting about their penis size so absurdly you can literally see the desperation written on their faces as they hope you can’t see through to how insecure they really feel.

It doesn’t help that men seem to have a very inaccurate idea of just what “average” should be. Lately it seems every man I run into thinks “average” should be somewhere between seven or eight inches long, usually closer to the second, and it’s not true.

Less than five out of every hundred men you meet will have a penis seven inches long, and less than one in a thousand will be able to show you something eight inches or more.

“Average”, depending on what study you look at, is either between five and six inches long, or five and a half and six and a half inches long… and that difference is probably due to the different methods employed by each study to measure. What comes up pretty consistently, though, is that “dead average” is on the short side of between five and six inches (usually somewhere around five and a quarter inches long).

THAT’S IT, BOYS AND GIRLS. That’s how long the penises of human males seem to be meant to be when you get right down to it… and with six billion plus humans around, it’s gotta be doing the job pretty damned well, so we don’t have a lot of reason to complain about that. To employ a bad pun, the penis really is “quite the little trooper”.

Or, to quote my urologist, “it’s nice to be able to piss off the side of a boat and all, but the purpose of a penis is to have sex and ejaculate sperm with, so if you can do both of those things, it means your penis isn’t the problem… you are”.

2 BIGGER IS BETTER…

Ah, here’s the second one. Even those educated on the realities of the human reproductive system seem prone to saying “well, of course it would be nice if men had bigger penises, but they don’t, so you should be satisfied with what you’ve got”, and to be perfectly frank, I wish they’d knock it off, because it’s just not true.

It would NOT be nice if males had bigger penises. Do you really figure humans are designed in such a slipshod manner that the genitals of human males are completely out of proportion to the genitals of human females?

Men’s penises are the size they are because that’s the optimum size for them to be considering the anatomy of the female of the species.

Bigger does absolutely NO good when it comes to reproduction or sexual satisfaction, and has quite a few drawbacks.

First, guys with really large penises rarely have really hard ones. It’s just the nature of the organ that being larger causes more difficulties. After all, as you increase blood volume, you increase the amount of weight the tissue of the penis has to support in order to maintain an erection, and I’m afraid the relative strength of penile tissue remains constant even if size doesn’t, so the larger you get, the less your penis is able to cope with supporting itself.

Ever try to have sex when you were only half hard? No offense, but it’s difficult to MASTURBATE like that. Having sex like that is a downright chore.

If you don’t believe me, go watch the pornos really closely and check to see how often those huge monster men have on a tight cock ring, how often they are holding the base of their penis really tightly to keep it in line, or how often a girl is holding the base of it like it’s the only thing keeping her from falling to her death. Let’s face it, how much better could bigger be if you have to do that? I mean, measure the width of your hand, and subtract that amount from the length of that monster dick you’re so impressed with, because that’s the amount that ISN’T being used during sex every time someone has to wrap their hand around the base of it and squeeze to keep it erect enough work with.

So from that point of view alone, average is better. The tissue of your penis was made to be nice and erect at that size, and not at a larger size.

Secondly, I will grant you it’s true that most females have a vaginal vault longer than the average penis length of most males.

Guess what? It has nothing to do with how large your penis should be. Well, it actually does, but not quite in the way you think.

To begin with, it’s not how long a female’s vagina is so much as where the nerve endings in it are. After all, if there aren’t any nerve endings, there’s nothing to feel with… and guys, the back two thirds of a female’s vagina have all the nerve endings of a dead fish.

Most all the nerves a female is designed to experience the amazing wonders of intercourse with are located in one of three areas… in the front third of her vagina (which is about the first three inches in or so), around the opening of her vagina, and in all those nifty little parts of her vulva including the ever elusive clitoris.

That’s where she gets her kicks, so your concern that you need to be able to go deeper is unfounded. In fact, it’s counterproductive. Guys, look at your dicks. You see that part on the end where you have a nice ridge sticking out? Ever wonder just why it was that odd little shape with the “mushroom tip”?

Because the sensation females respond most to vaginally (as opposed to clitoral stimulation and what not) is having the walls of the first third of their vaginas, and especially the entrance to it, gently expanded and contracted… which is EXACTLY what that bit of your penis is designed to do… gently push the walls of the vagina just a bit out as it slides by, so they can contract afterward and provide that heavenly sensation.

Now then, if that’s the whole purpose of the head of your penis, and that’s located right at the end, and all THAT action is supposed to be taking place right by the front entrance, so to speak, where do you think that part of your penis should really be doing its work?

How, exactly, would longer serve you better under those circumstances?

The answer is, it wouldn’t. When you take various factors into account (positioning, the shape of the body around the genitals which prevents complete insertion of the penis under most circumstances, etc), that’s pretty much how deep an average penis is going to end up penetrating. It’s going to go right to the sensitive spots and the parts of it that are supposed to do their work there are going to stay in that area.

Moreover, do you know what that extra two inches or so of length (insensitive length, at that) provide a female? It provides her insurance against having the penis of an average male coming into contact with the back end of her vagina (you know, the cervix and entrance to the uterus), because physical contact with them is, usually, painful in the extreme… and unless you like the woman you are having sex with suddenly screaming in genuine pain as she tries to throw you off her, it’s probably best avoided.

There again, the average penis wins the size war because it’s the least likely to cause that very unwanted outcome.

The bottom line is, size really isn’t the issue most people think it is, nor is it responsible for the amount of dissatisfaction people ascribe to it. If you are a poor lover with a small penis, having a large penis will do nothing for you.

The dissatisfaction most people experience with sex isn’t a matter of size, it’s a matter of technique.

Unfortunately, we do just about everything we can to make sure people don’t learn how to be genuinely good lovers, and then react in an astounded fashion when it turns out people don’t know what they’re doing, and this has to be the only area where such a stupid idea makes any sense.

I mean, think about it… it’s about like going “what do you mean you can’t build a table?! We’ve made sure you haven’t ever learned anything about carpentry, for God’s sake, you should be a freaking expert!” Or, “You can’t fix your car yourself? You’ve never been taught anything about cars! Why, with that training, you should be able to rebuild an engine from scratch, damnit!”

See, it doesn’t make any sense when you apply it to any other subject, does it?

However, a bit of time, a bit of knowledge, and a bit of honest curiosity and exploration in learning just what makes your lover feel best will go a lot farther toward a good sex life than a penis extension will…

So yeah, take a deep breath, relax, and realize you can still be perfectly up to snuff as a man without having a penis larger than the rest of your body.

Well, I have never had a problem with my 6 inches.

No woman ever asked to inspect my cock size before agreeing to have sex with me. The passion was enough.

I have always worked on the basis that if my tongue is big enough to drive a woman crazy and have her coming back for more then my cock is no problem.

That is quite honestly the best compliment for your sexual prowess - when she comes back for more and more.

I am sure there are men with 3 to 4 inch penises that have had women coming back for more and men with big penises that never see the woman again.

With women who do like big cocks, and there are some of course, its all in their minds, they just like to see one - nothing wrong with that - but it has nothing to do with performance.

I would suggest that near 100% of women have decided they want sex with a man without ever having seen his cock so get personallity right and the technique right and she will be back.

I have an average 6 inch penis. I do worry about its size alot. So I have come to find that one thing is true that women do love larger penises, but an average one is sexy also. A small one can no doubt be found sexy as well when given the chance, as I think in some cases an average one has to be given a chance as well by some women. I also know that kegel exercises can strengthen a womans vagina and she can squeeze a smaller penis and I’m sure she would rather enjoy that. doing these exercises can become so addictive that squeezing those muscles can feel good even when not engaged in sexual activitiy.

As a woman I want to give you guys a little piece of advice. I have been with more men than I would admit to a casual acquaintance and let me tell you most men are average, really large and really small penises are very rare. Average is good, because I am an average size woman. It really is about technique in bed and personality out of it; and the person who said that a woman decides if she will have sex with a man before seeing his penis was right. Penis size isn’t really a deciding factor in whether or not a woman is sexually attracted to a man for all but the most vacuous porn fed girls who are in fantasy land looking for their big cocked prince charming on a white stallion. Frankly a woman makes up her mind within a very short time of meeting a man if he ever will have a chance often on first glance, forget worrying about your penis and make sure your teeth and nails are clean, your hair groomed and you are dressed nicely, be polite and courteous and a gentleman- and it will go a lot farther than worrying if your penis measures up, by the time a woman sees it it really shouldn’t matter to her or you are dating shallow superficial women and maybe you should be a little more selective before getting into bed with them rather than giving them the chance to deliver a blow to your ego by rejecting you for of all least important things- your penis size!

Does it matter? Of course it does. Those lines that women feed men who are no doubt small are nothing more than BS.

“It’s not what you have but how you use it” or “It’s not the boat it’s the motion of the ocean”

How many times have you heard these or read them? They were made up by women to spare the feelings of their not-so-well endowed husbands. Has a woman ever explained what exactly the term “how to use it” actually means? Of course not. They are nothing more than form letter equivalents that get placed in her mind sometime before birth. Now when you meet up with them smaller boys, you can use these lines to make ‘em feel just a bit better.

Would that make women liars. Well, yes it would. This is a gender that seems to think it’s ok to “fake it” and not bother to tell their SO until the unhappiness is too much to bare and the relationship is dead.

While it is true that a woman will not (initially) sleep with a man strictly for his penis (nor does she fall in love with it) she will dump him over it and it happens every day. So it may happen once, but if you’re small (regardless of whether you have excellent hand and tongue technique, patience, understanding and pay attention) chances are she won’t be coming back for more anytime soon, if ever.

Remember this, if size didn’t matter so much, then men would have stopped worrying about it centuries ago. Their worry stems from their own personal experiences. I’m not talking about that locker room crap either. Experiences with women is what I’m referring to. People wouldn’t point fingers or laugh nor would they make jokes if it didn’t mean anything.

As I like to say, you can do all the hand play and tongue play you want. In the end, if she can’t feel “it” then it does not matter how you use “it”.

Look people size matters depending onthe girl, if the girl is a self serving, greedy, superficial slut like most women are than yes size will matter and maybe beingtoo big is bad but for some girls they like huge cocks some dont but it really comes down to this is she a bitch or a real woman who you could be with not just fuck.

My cock is 4-5” erect. I’m in my mid 40’s and am in great shape. The reason why I’m saying this is because if you saw me naked, you would be impressed with the overall package, until you saw my little package. I wax my chest and back and shave my cock and balls. Since, I’m older, I also realize how its more fun to pleasure a woman than being pleasured. I love going down on a woman(pussy and ass) and love giving footrubs and licking feet. I’ve actually had a woman orgasm when I was licking her feet. My point is that by the time I have intercourse with a woman she usually has had a few orgasms. Also, if you take the womans legs and put her feet on one of your shoulders(say the right one), this will make her pussy tighter and make you feel bigger. Also, I get to lick her feet and toes when I’m having sex with her. I call that a Win/Win.

Large cocks are horrid to have sex with if they hit the cervix, and horrid afterwards when they’ve given you cystitis. Medium is perfect, although my man is thicker than normal and that’s fine. Small I would like him to be willing to learn what really pleases me, hell if he feels like he can’t really pleasure me and puts the extra effort in (like large cocked guys can’t be assed with) then it’s small all the way, lol.

Still some guys have it far worse. My friend told me she once shagged a ginger guy who had luminous ginger pubic hair and nigh on killed herself laughing at him (she’s ginger herself). As a rule women think it’s hilarious how utterly serious penis size is to men.

“…if the girl is a self serving, greedy, superficial slut like most women are…” That’s a bit nasty… are you sure it’s the size of your cock driving the chicks away?

Just about every post here has a bit of truth…

Bottom line: A slighly small penis will not probably destroy a quality, lasting relationship. However, the normal modern women who casually dates at least a good number of guys before finding such a connection will dump a guy just as easily for a 5.5incher as for not liking a particular scar on his forehead.

I have to say that my lover’s penis is not the largest that I have had but he works it just fine, he is more into pleasing me then being worried about his dick. He is not ashame of his size he even says that he knows that he is good and yes he is. when we first had sex ( love making came later) he took his clothes off and walked around the room no shame at all as if he wanted me to see his dick first. I’m always satisifed when our love making is over and yes he goes to sleep. Now I once had a cuttie buddy ( sex only) and this man’s dick was huge but all he wanted was to put it into my ass, oral sex wasn’t easy to preform on him and to be honest I did not enjoy his sex no where as much as I do with the man in my life now, learn to use what you have guys, find out what pleases your women and don’t be worried about your size if she is then drop her ass. Love isn’t the size it is the feeling you get from making love so make it feel good and your in there trust!!!!!

I am considering getting an enlargement for my 6” wanger? any advice ?