Amorous Propensities : sex is funny, sex is sad

Thanks to feminism and PC white men are blamed for all the ills of the world.

And still are expected to save that same world whenever the fire is burning somewhere again.

So they do not have time to be cool and laid back

Remarkable amounts of White Men are being sued and arrested for sexual harassment. If we wink, whistle, or comment on how hot a girl is we have to dodge the bullet on sexual harassment complaint. On the other hand if a black man doesn’t whistle, wink, or comment he must be gay.

I think that is very funny. I am a professional white man. I can personally tell that the author of this article apparently either is still trying to rationalize her decisions. I’m sorry that she feels the way that she does, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I would be willing to place a bet with her that she could never find a black man that compared to this white man. Unfortunately for her, I, like most of the decent white men out there, are quite peculiar about whom we become involved with. I would never become involved with this author because of the same reasons that her statistic show that black women and white men don’t mix.

Look at all the insecurity that pops up when we consider the idea of race and sexuality! In the end, it’s what does it for each individual…and making the response that “I’d do it better” or “she’s never had me yet” is just plain ridiculous.

In my experience, it really comes down to each person, rather than race. However, I don’t think we can deny that there are cultural experiences that can shape and affect how a person deals with life, much less sex. Just look at the stats on black women’s perceptions of themselves in terms of self-esteem and beauty…they are dramatically higher than their white counterparts during the teen years and beyond. If we can acknowledge that difference, why couldn’t we acknowledge, in general, that a larger number of black men treat women differently (and, for some, in a desired way)?

I have a large group of friends of mixed race, and one night not long ago a black couple, and my wife and I talked about this. carl, carol, cassie and I had a fun night Bsing this topic over beer.

Both carl and I commented about a subtle shift over the last few years as women start to more visable about sharing some of their sexual escapades. One thing we noticed was that Women no longer have the taboo that having sex with a black man is going to ruin them socially with their friends and peers. It’s like now if you have not had a BBC then your missing the party. I had to laugh because it was during this conversation when carl and i was suprized when both our wives started discussing penis size. only to learn we were within 1/4 inch of each other. We also noticed that some women are taking greater pleasure in being the ruthless (Bitch) that modern society says she has to be to succeed. I personally have meet very few women any more who act like a Lady. that does not mean act strong, independant and self confident, but I have meet many arrogant, rude and condesending women. Whether this stems from the fact they watched their fathers mistreat their moms or some other catalyst. The people in question felt they needed to be the Bitch, sadly I think every one suffers based on this mentality. We also noticed alot more open Lesbian/gay couples today. Carl also argued about another interesting topic where white men prefer to be Cuckolded by the wives. While carl and I, both agreed about the fun of being submissive from time to time. For carl and I it’s a real turn on for men to be seen as Strong for our spouces. While we know this was not scientific The general opinion is basically one of such relaxed sexual mores in our american society today that we have lost focus on what was truely important.

my take on this is basicly that men have not changed much over the last few years, but women have. especially women during a marriage who see greener pastures and seek security as one of their primary driving forces.

By: a married man of 14 years.

I find it ironic that Richard’s disclaimer at the footnote states: “…Homophobia, racism, and kindred expressions of hatred will be deleted.”

Seeing as how the original subject is utter racist rubbish!

I am what you call a very sexually liberated guy and seeing as how I’m only 25 years of age I have many more pleasurable experimental years ahead of me…oh, and I’m white!

This is quite clearly a typical woman who wants all her dreams and fantasies of a certain ideal man to just fall in her lap and never pulls her finger out to go and find him. Somehow a magical guy who knows that every woman’s sexuality is individual and automatically knows how to satisfy one with a snap of the finger.

Maybe she herself is sexually ignorant and thinks one good experience with a guy of ethnic origin has somehow convinced her that all ethnic guys are better than white guys.

This is plainly a selfish woman with no regard but to herself and what she wants.

This I should find offensive but seeing as how I find it both childish and PATHETIC I’m not bothered to get upset over it.

One less stupid ignorant moron we good (sexually liberated)guys have to deal with.

Axeman.

Axeman,

I can see your point. And know black men who resent “negrophilia.”

But to me her article was just another interesting example of the variability of sexuality.

I have just become aquainted with a very intellegent and sexy black man, I am a white woman. I can relate to the authors interest in black men as she stated herself as celebrating “A Race Specific Desire”. I have several “specific desires”, race being only one of them. Therefore I do not agree with her blanket assumption that all white men are not worth dating anymore. White men also have specific sexually attractive attributes and I believe she has pigeoned holed herself into the notion that now, only black men will be acceptable and sexually attractive to her. I hope I will always have my eyes open for any adventure that presents itself, for the sheer enjoyment of something new and different. New and different has many faces and colors.

I prefer Carribbean men over white american men. I find them very relaxed, sensual and erotic. It’s not about size, it’s about attitude. For me it is a personal preference, not the “in” thing to do.

In my area the white women will tend to be childless and have careers while the black women will be poor single mothers at a much higher rate. Some black men see these white women as a paycheck. Some hate whites and while the sex is consentual, they are raping you in their minds. Some hate themselves and see white as superior so of course they’d treat a white woman differently. About half of the black men I know are full of it.. they act like they have money when they have children and don’t even pay the child support regularly, etc.

Don’t confuse confidence with indifference. I think the same “confidence” that makes black youth turn to crime is the “confidence” to which she is attracted. Some of them just don’t care what happens to them. I bet she’d love to date a suicide bomber.

I think many white men could be more attractive if they sold their homes to live in a ratty apartment and piled up credit card debt buying expensive cars, clothes, and jewelry instead of paying bills, too.

There is an obvious double standard. If a white man came up to a woman and said in proper english what I have heard black men say in ebonics as an introduction, who knows what would happen. I wonder if these other white women even know what is being said to them. I doubt I’d be impressed hearing a white man say, “Hello slut, you have a great ass and I intend to have repeated violent sex with you and abuse you until you become my personal whore.”.

What I find so selfish is white women who have the babies of “large” black men. Their sons will not be as black or as “large” most likely. Don’t breed “big” black men out of existance! Leave black babies to black women and don’t deny the next generation the experience!

Well where i’m at in the us there are no black men or women, but the women bitch about nobody to date, the men out number them 20 to 1 most act like whores and not ladies I was always taught treat a woman like a woman till she proves other wise. So if men are not being gentelmen anymore maybe the ladies are the ones to blame.

Holy crikey, this just gets worse and worse!

I think we just have to chalk this up to “Whatever rings your bell” because when it comes to race, we’re all clearly (and still) WAY, WAY too sensitive. Look at all the “points” that came up that are actually completely OFF topic…penis size, feminism and political correctness, sexual harrassment, personal insecurity, whether being a strong woman makes you a bitch or confident (?), whether the author is “ignorant of other races” because she’s shown a preference and written about it, and, to top it all off, a racist rant. No where in her article does the author mention these things, yet they all came up! Yes, the article has flaws. Yes, it stereotypes. Yes, the author has a clear preference. But if this were about anything but race (e.g. say she had a preference for, say, WOMEN, in general), then I think that there would be far more nods of agreement than dissention.

Well, as for the coments left by pondering. I think for some reason you are just mad, or have a lot of hatred in your heart. So a white woman likes a black man, big deal. Get over it! Because you have a problem with a black man and a white woman, or vice versa. Do not attempt to throw stones at the poor and debt riddled black man. There are just as many “white kids” that turn to violence, just as many “white men” that have bad credit and a mountain of debt. Dont be blinded by your ignorance! I am a 27 year old “black man”, with zero debt, a great job, and a amazing home! Now, dont get me wrong, I see many black men that amaze me in their ignorance and lack of motivation. But there are just as many white men who dont fit into the “typical” white man stereotype. Lastly, is there anyone “pure” in america today? So what if a white woman has a “black man’s” baby. Who are you to say two people in love cant have a child together. Who are you to say dont “breed” black men out of existance, like we are cattle, or some high school science project! Leave black babies to black women and don’t deny the next generation the experience? What experience is that? The experience of dealing with simple minded creatures as yourself? In that case, please, do us all a favor. Dont have any children! OH! BY THE WAY…. “Black Men” are better lovers!

Ms. Veruca, thank you! I think that most of the people that made negative comments are just mad that the woman preferred black men to white men. I have heard this from more than one white woman. Ok, this is my opinion, MINE. I feel that black men are just more passionate when it comes to making love. You can say whatever you want, you can make all the racist comments you want about black men not contributing to society and all that Sh!@@, but I really don’t care, if he is contributing to ME, to my body physically, to my mind thoughtfully, to my soul spiritually, and to my heart loving me. If he can do that, he ain’t got to do a dang thing for this society which is going to hell anyway. I’m in a predominantly white college and I never thought that I would see so many black people, especially black men. THESE black men have confidence because they KNOW that they are going to get out of the hell wholes that people are pushing them further and further into, not because they are trying to ACT like they have money. White guys don’t really have the confidence when it comes to approaching black women, but black men have confidence when it comes to approaching white women and black women. I just think white men like to stay in their little bubbles and are afraid to explore. THAT is MY opinion. Thank you.