Intra-Marital Affairs
• Heterogeneous
A term I discovered in a review of Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies by Brett Kahr
Though he suggests that guilt and shame over perceived mental infidelity is chief among the problems caused by sexual fantasies, Kahr goes so far as to name the images called to mind during sex with one’s partner “intra-marital affairs,” a label that does nothing to assuage the guilty partner’s sense that she is “cheating”. Even exceedingly tame fantasies, like Diego’s preferred images of making love to beautiful “muchachas,” are invested with terrible repercussions: he believes that he and other men who fantasize about women other than their wives “will roast together” in Hell.