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              If you want to have a nice wife SPANK her slitely.              you will enjoy it.So will she.

I grew up in a “traditional christian family” and never believed a wife should be spanked until after 12 years of marriage and sacrificing myself for her and the kids she left me made false allegations of abuse to get custody. Has kept me from my children now for 5 years. Used differences in laws between the states to get me illegally prosecuted for abducting them when I didn’t. Ruined my business and ruined my life. The woman I was married to need more than a spanking she needs a whipping like the African American on the movie roots got (and I’d give 10,000 to be the one to give it to her too)

we all love to be spanked, really… i know i do. and i’m male. if i had a wife, we would take turns being spanked by each other.

Most women like to be spanked. I know I sure do, and my husband loves to do it.

If she’s really been bad-helll yes. She should be spanked untill she can’t sit. Husbands should have paddles for this and her underpants should be taken down. After all, we’re talking about adults so their buns should really hurt. But if she is not a problem, I don’t think us men should look for excuses.

i think wives should be spankedbecause otherwise they forget the natural hierachy.spankin should be done on the bare buttocks and cane must be used liberally

oh yes..if she’s a brat..spank her Butt..if you don’t she’ll be disappointed..feel unloved and she’ll get worse..

but first..make sure she’s into it..if she’s not..don’t marry her..she’ll only cause you trouble in the end..

How to find out if she’s into it or not?..catch her in a lie, or some such small misdeed..threaten to put her over your knee..her reaction, her words and the look in her eyes will tell you what you need to know..hehehe..

yes heck yes!! Slap her for hours!!! spank her silly!!! give her at least 1 hour a week if she does anythign that your dont like! im female and i think you should i mean my husband does!! hit her really hard!!!
i mean it do it lots at least 100 if she disrespects you

Yes, wives should be spanked. I’m now divorced and I truly believe had my husband put me over his knee when I was being bratty, we may possibly still be married. I’ve settled down a lot as I’ve aged but I still believe that women, even those of us who try to be good, will occasionally forget our place. A good bottom warming seems to set everything right again.

leslie

I have been spanking my wife on a regular basis since before we were married. She’s very goodlooking and very sexy and loves to flirt as well as fool around. SHe especially loves to wear short skirts and i have caught her a few times talking with men at the door in see-thru lingerie. I usually put her over my knee and give her a bare-ass spanking and then make her stand in a corner for awhile with her skirt up and underwear down. I have used a hair brush on occasion and once used a paddle at a party we were at in the den when I caught her with her panties around her knees and a man running up the stairs.

I’m a real traditional brasilian/italian wife and my husband use to spank me once a week by belt (he’s a police officer) when I do do something that he does not like, and I’m very obeing, sometimes I got spanked even do not doing anything. I love him I like to be spanked.

I’m not married at this moment and I would like to know and find a man to spank me. I’m a perfect wife and very beautiful too. I’m a traditional woman that knows that men have to be obeyed. Waiting anxiously a message at my email

yes i think wives should be spanked. im a 37 year old house wife that is on my best after im spanked hard my husband dosent spank me much but when he dose i dont forget soon i think i agree with the others we should be spanked often just to remind us who is in charge

Yes. But then I’m an equal-opportunity kind of girl, and I also think husbands should be spanked, as well as people who aren’t even married!

I am 27 and my wife is 21. She is so sweet, nice and a #1 brat! I can’t understand sometimes why she has to keep whining about things or has tantrums when I say she or we cannot do something. On more than a few occasions I have taken her over my knee and given her a very long and hard spanking. The day she made me really angry was when I went out with my fishing buddies instead of taking her shopping for some damn sale. She poured a can of red paint on our car. When I saw that I went ballistic and belted her. Anyway, I def think a man should spank his wife to keep her in line and show her who is boss. Only then can they be happy.

i was brought up with a hairbrush. my sister asnd i knew if we misbehaved, lied. or did anything bad it was up to the bathroom over dads knees bare bottom spanked so we couldnr sit down for a while. when i married spanking was used on me or my wife when deserved for misdeeds. a good old fashioned whipping clears the air and sure beats long drawn out periods of silence or arguing. we also use fun spanks in foreplay. once her mother took over when we both needed correction.i went over her knees first and that night we both slept on our tummies.

yes. i need to be spanked, sometimes publicly. i think the humiliation is good for me, but i learn my lesson much better if you rub my clit while spanking me.

adam created eve and hence man have complete rights over wife.ispank my wife regularly,and mostly for pleasure.i spank her on the bare bottom(50 strokes)where she is strapped to a stool.iue only cane.she considers me next to god and this is the correct attitude.for severe offences,i sduspend her from the ceiling,tie her such that soles are exposed and cae her 100 times on buttocks,thighs,breasts,soler.i tie her with rope.i sometimes spank her before frienfds.i feel i am the world”s happiest man.

Wives should indeed be spanked. When they misbehave they should quickly be brought into line. A belting best suits our needs as a couple. Ten or twelve firm lashes of the belt not only reddens her bottom but also focuses her thoughts on our relationship. I find that once or twice a week is enough to keep her focused.

Before we were married my future mother-in-law said I would have a loving wife but she was subject to temper tantrums that could only be controled by a leather belt spanking from time to time. My wife agreed to submit to my spanking her for control as needed but added that not all spankings should be for punishment. She said she would enjoy erotic 4-play spankings. All this is true and we have a loyal loving relationship in marriage. I spank my wife [best described as giving her a whipping with leather strap] about twice a month. These sessions are very sensuous for both of us,a real turn on. I’ve got to admit that I enjoy whipping her as much as I do fucking her. Welts on her bottom and thighs only last a day.

We tried discipline spankings for awhile, mostly because of testimonials like the comments above. But it didn’t work the way we’d like. After 6 months of it, it was starting to make me afraid of displeasing my husband, or conversely, I’d try to “brat” to purposely get his attention.

And my husband got really tired of always being my “Cop”.

If it works for you, great. But it doesn’t work for everyone.

I believe that a man is my Master and is to correct my behaviour if I do something bad or disobey him.. I can’t wait when he tells me to lie down, pulls down my panties and spanks me with his strong big hand. I know it is for my own good and I am grateful to him for making me a better person. I always kiss his hand and thank him. At the moment I have no man to spank me and keep me in check. I miss it terribly, there is no one to keep me in control. I is a pity that womens liberation made men lose their traditional role.

My wifeis usually normal and very loving but subject to throwing temper tantrums now and then.For example she will deliberately provoke a spanking with a tantrum. Unprovoked she bit me hard enough to draw a touch of blood -then in defiant pose said she needed to be whipped with the razor strap. I whipped her bottom and thighs severly and admit to enjoying myself while giving her a beating. The welts and weals produced were visible for four days. We made passionate love after I whipped her.

I really need to be spanked sometimes. But I’m not married. It’s a shame, cos my firm little bottom is missing a strong hand beating it!

My late-wife of 25+ years was no stranger to old fashioned discipline while growing up in the South and as a result was looking for an equal yet at the sametime a Husband who wouldn’t hesitate taking control in the old fashioned time honored manner particularly for the 3 D’s. There IS a time and place for everything and a little eat to the seat never hurt anyone on occasion when necessary…..Lonny(thelonz@hotmail.com)

Hi

I am Mona Lisa, and will like to have a huband who spanks very hard.

If you want to email me do it to

monalisa24a@hotmail.com

i like spanko, my boyfriend is one

I am a 36 year old fenale on my second marriage. My first husband took discipline to abuse, and we ended our marriage after 7 years. I have been married to my second husband for 7 years and finally told him a month ago that without spanking as discipline, I will probably ruin our marriage…I was 1 step from an affair when I told him this. I thought he’d think I was crazy…that he’d rush me to the closest mental ward, instead, he told me how many times he’s thought I needed a sound spanking. Now, a month later, I am a happy wife who loves to make her hubby smile. Do I think wives should be spanked? HELL YES!

Yes, if both parties are agreeable to it, then of course it’s okay for a husband to spank his wife. I like to know that my husband is in charge of me and he keeps me in my proper place as his wife. He loves me very much and is very good to me, but he is the boss in this house and sometimes I need to be reminded of that. The next day, when my bottom is sore (and my little pussy is sore, too!) I remember to obey him and I know that he is the man and I am the woman.

My fiance spanks me on a pretty regular basis if I do something wrong. Spanking is of course a great sexual turn-on for both of us, but it is also a very real way to deal with life issues that arise between us.

I don’t think he is abusive, I just think he is very loving. He’s both my lover and something of a paternalistic figure for me.

The spankings themselves are usually not sexual or slutty—no role play involved. Just him, me, my bare backside and his belt.

It’s usually a little humiliating to be bent over the side of the couch or bent over the side of the bed with my pants and panties pulled down waiting for him to come in and give me my spanking—those are the times that I swear to myself that I will never do whatever thing it is I have done that I am being spanked for.

40-50 smacks with the belt and I am usually a crying mess, but a very contrite girl. The week after I am spanked is usually awesome as we are very open and loving and attentive to one another.

We aren’t some weird slimeballs either with weird kicks he is a 7 figure making white collar worker and I am in grad school. We’re both pretty prominent in our communities and people would probably be appalled if they knew this about us.

We’ve been together for 4 years and I love him more than life itself, there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for him.

Couples should try domestic discipline. It isn’t for everyone, but if you’re a woman who can put her ego aside for about 30 minutes every few weeks then give it a try. Yes, getting spanked with a belt on your bare is embarrassing—but truth me told you did something to deserve it… And I’ll be totally honest, when you are sitting on your bottom after it’s been spanked—it’s warm and stingy, but the sexual sensation is very hot.

Just try it.

I know it sounds like agreeing to do this sets the feminist movement back 100000 years, but it really doesn’t.

Well, I am going to be spanked in 3 hours so I am going to go do some kissing up right now so that it isn’t too bad when I do get it.

Toodles.

My Husband spanks me once a week. I can’t be good for long. But I have to say I love he’s strong hands on my soft ass. After the spanking I always feel so good.

Spanking is very sexy, if both parties really agree and it isnt used to really try to solve any real disagreements.

But a guy that spanks without making absolute sure he knows his wife’s limits is sorta asking to get his behind kicked.

It can be cute, but there are limits to everything. I think SOfia should consider if her “life issues that arise between them” are actually being solved or just momentarily pushed away by the distraction of spanking.

Any one can earn money, and being upstanding in your community does not mean you are not a slime ball. Good luck….and remember to think

Hi im a wife at a marriage were my husband is 19 years older then me,so he should already know i need some growing up discipline and consequensces in my life.yes that means a good ass beating twice a month our the excat momment i deserve one and extra consequences like a 1000 word essay about why i did what i did wrong and how to change it for the good,.do u get my drift,i agree my man is a man who i shall learn to obey from this momment on and he should start meaning what he says by taking his strong hands and actually remove my undies and bare my bottom in privacy r not and teach me what a real fucking ass beating feels like ,,and what does it mean not to sit down for a week?

Any advice or suggestions of a non sexual nature would be apprecited.

A non-erotic spanking of another adult sounds spooky. What sort of advice are you seeking?

I would like to bring up the idea of spanking to my husband but am embarassed to do so. I have always been to dominant personality in our relationship for the past 18 yrs and would like this to change. I feel I need a spanking to help control my tantrums. What should I do?

I’m a professional person and I have a position where I have a great deal of authority over subordinates and colleages. I am male, 6’1”, very athletic and very artistic and academically oriented. There are occasions when I’m condesending in my tone of speech feel that I need to be reprimanded verbally and physically punished. Recently I admonished a constuction worker who was working at a new research site I’m responsible for supervising. He seemed very annoyed by me addressing him in such a terse manner, and I sensed that he wanted to beat the shit out of me. That night I fantasized about him yelling at me, then taking me over his knee and paddling me on my bare buttocks until I cried and ageed that he is boss and I’m to listen to him. I was so greatly arroused, sexually and psychologically. Are there any professional women out there who’ve had a similar experience? And, if so, how did you go about approaching desired disciplinarians, and asking them to provide necessary punishment? Please e-mail me at MicaDoc@hotmail.com. Thanks!

Gay people need to convert. NOW! And change your skin color! You silly nilly!

Hi. My name is Tomasz. I live in Poland (Europe) and I’m a writer, journalist-publicist-columnist-opinionist etc. I create TV channel formats as well. I love very much my wife. She needs a good spanking sometimes… But the problem is that: if you want to be next to God, you must behave like God. If a husband wants to be entitled to spank his beloved woman, he must be an ideal husband. He must be loving tender, sensible and - llast but not least - responsible, both in emotional and financial way. He cannot drink nor do drugs, he must forget about friends, fishing, soccer (or baseball for you Americans) games… I now I will be such an angel (guardian angel) someday, but not yet…

I find these comments just fucked up, for the most part. I’m a hetero male who loves spanking women, controlling them sexually and so forth, but only as a mutually agreed-upon fantasy. It’s not “natural” for a man to be in control — equality is natrual. Let’s have fun in bed without acting like babies (e.g. “I only feel good if I have a Daddy to spank me;” “I love to keep my little woman in line”). Frankly, I think fantasies about male control and female submission, all the old double standards and so forth are incredibly erotic, but while they’re fun to play with, if you actually believe them you’re a moron. Even if you’re a “graduate student” or your husband’s a rich guy. Pluhease! I’m not ofended so much as I am annoyed to see a bunch of cro-magnon men and emotionally and intellectually immature women, however educated they may be. Enjoy these fantasies, but remember that they’re just that — FANTASIES

I think that wives sould be spanked, i sould know. i get spanked at least three times a week, and it has really made me love my hubby a lot more than i did when he didnt spank me. most of the times he will catch me doing something wrong and then just turn me over his knee and give me a few good ones. but other times when i do something really bad, i get bent over the side of the bed and i get his belt. i have never gotten the cane of the hair brush, but i will see how far i can push my limits. (i think writting this will mean over the knee for me. i shouldnt be writing this.)

see yalls

Heh, I didn’t know that spanking women is so popular. Personally, I don’t mind a guy gently slaping my buns while doing me doggy style but more than that may be problematic. On the other side I found exciting being with a confident but somewhat submissive guy who doesn’t mind a gal like me administering one or two open-hand slaps over their buns — double standard, I know.

i am not yet married just 19. i have this boyfriend and we’ve been together for a 2 years now.(although we’ve been associates for about 3 years)and he gets aggressive sometimes and we begin to wrestle.realizing he’s trying to show to me his strength i am so enticed. i want it to be more than that though

i want to be spanked, not so much sexually but discipline , i guess we could play around it the first couple of times until it becomes our normal activity, but then i want true discipline. with him to teach me as well.

is it possible to get him into spanking without actually confronting him verbally? that seems so awkward to me, i dont know what he’d say to this. i feel like this is the kind of thing you just do with out talking about. i dont want to consent but i want him to continue, knowing that i really do want him to spank me.

  any suggestions to a female who's a virgin to the whole spanking relationship

I’ve been married for 28 years and love my husband very much. I have fantasized about disciplinary-type spankings for YEARS! I’m a professional nurse in upper management and am in a situation where I’m the “in-charge” person. I’d love that position to reverse at home, but am embarrassed to bring it up. What suggestions do you have as to how to approach this?

I think that if more men spanked their wives there would be fewer divorces. I wish I could find a big strong man that would spank my bottom when I needed it.

As a sexual fantasy between consensual adults the spank your woman fantasy is ok. Anything else is simply ritualistic abuse and some should seek professional help.

I am a 42 year old woman and my husband spanked me before we got married. I new right then and there that he was the one for me. I am a very strong willed woman and I need an even stronger willed man….We have been married 25 years. I dont like the spankings but I am very turned on by the man who is more than willing to give them. the key point for me is that I know he won’t let things/issues/arguments, go to far………….. I trust him with my ass and he trust me with his heart.

i’m 50, was never spanked as a child even though i was arewal brat. idepartely want to be spanked but am not in a relationship and don’t have anyone to do it

I wish my husband would tan my hid good for writting hot checks but he won;t I wish someone would because I need it bad. I need my ass busted so hard I can;t sit down for a week

i can see spanking - of the man or the woman - in a sexual manner as nice in a marriage or other relationship.

but as actual punishment, no. especially if it’s actual punishment linked to sexual acts, it makes things twisted and makes the relationship too much like a child parent relathionship. I feel like spankings like this, of the husband should spank his wife because it is the natural heirarchy of things, or that the husband is next to God for the wife, that’s both blasphemous and not mentally healthy. This is completely different from BDSM, where you submit because they’re your Master and you must, not because society tells you to or because he’s a man and all women submit to men. it makes it less special.

My husband is a very strong African man..I am a white woman. He is very loving, protective and respectfull to me. I am very strong willed, outspoken and outgoing, and there are times when I push his limits. He spanks me a couple of times a month, always over his knee and always on my bare bottom, while scolding and lecturing me on my behaviour. He tells me that in Africa, and in his culture, men spanking their wives is common. Many of our friends are African couples and we are the only mixed race couple and he tells me that all of his African male friends regularly spank their women. Last week he had some friends over to watch a basketball game, I had been out with the girls and came home a little tipsy and with an attitude. I wanted the guys to go home so that I could enjoy myself with my husband and be underneath him having some of his “African-Maledom” I guess I became a little too much, and much to my surprise he turned me over his knee, pulled up my skirt, pulled down my panties and spanked my long and hard right in front of his African friends, who were shouting encouragement over my protests. Then he ordered me to go into the bedroom and wait for him, he came in a couple of minutes later, bent me over and gave me the hardest * he has ever given me, and he is HUGE. At first I was mortified that his friends had seem me being spanked and then clearly heard me being *. But I tell you, never again will I interrupt him and his friends when they are watching a game. It hurt to sit down for several days, and once they left he bent me over and took off his belt and strapped me; something he had never done before. I am a better behaved wife knowing that I have a strong no-nonsense man that will not tolerate my shenanigans. Not like the wimps I dated before my husband.

These women who “need” to be spanked are the weirdest bunch. Years of psychotherapy could help though.For husbands-abusers, some long term prison sentences could help them befriend big Bubbas and become good girlfriends to them. Sick stuff, I tell ya. Crazy bitches and cowardly sick men who abuse them.

Consensual role-playing should not be confused with wife abuse.

See also: Should husbands be spanked?

How can any relationship be equitable when one member of the relationship is disciplined with violence? The unhealthy relationships being described in these comments are frightening. What recourse do these women have when their men are out of line? Or are you operating under the assumption that the man is always right and thus you always deserve to be assaulted during disagreement? I would truly hope that these couples lack the ability to reproduce, because any child created in these dysfunctional relationships will likely be abused either emotionally or physically.

That said, fantasy, role-play, BDSM, etc. are a wonderful part of the sexual spectrum. But it should be CONSENSUAL and NOT to “keep her focused” or “keep her in line” or “because they forget the natural hierarchy.” I can’t believe people still by into that crap.

I suspect many of the comments are really expressions of fantasy, role-playing they wish they could indulge in but probably can’t. At least that is how much web sex talk always strikes me.

Not that I really can know for sure.

well i will say this im 37 not sick in the head or a bitch as some put it . i do how ever feel that when i get spanked from my hubby i am focussed to handle the real world better and things that i need to deal with in my job. i know this life is not for all. but in the us we all have the right to choose thats what makes us great.

My husband spanks me whenever I become obstinate and argumentative, as it pertains to my own safety. Like most married couples, we have arguments, and he does not spank me for those disagreements, however, if I get caught speeding, or if I stay out too late with my friends and come home tipsy, I usually end up over his knee. And if I come home tipsy, he claims that the few extra glasses of wine increase my discomfort tolerance, so usually I am bent over the bed and am given his belt. Then the next day, when I am completly sober, I get the “proper” punishment (as he call it). The scolding, over his knee, corner time, etc. Once, he even called my girlfriends husband to “discuss” what action the two men should take to curb our destructive behaviour…that was embarassing because he relayed to the other husband how he had spanked me the previous night and was just about to finish the session. He loves me, takes care of me and is a caring loving husband. He told me before we got married about his views on husbands spanking their wives when needed, so it was no surprise. The spankings dont hurt a great deal, but I am left with a stinging red bottom that lasts a couple of days. The worst is in the summer when wearing a thong bikini, we host and attend many pool parties, I wear a sheer wrap around skirt over my thong, and the marks on my bottom can be seen, which my husband seems to enjoy.

I dont think that men should have the right to spank a female if she disagrees or does something that he doesnt like. Maybe in self-defense, like if the female is hitting him or attacking him in some way. I guess thats a little better than any other kind of physical thing he could do to her.

I believe that men and women are both equal. although, i also believe a women should be spanked…perhaps this is because i enjoy it so damn much!!:D

Only when they’ve been bad, or if it excites them.

hi, i’m 26 my hus. is 38 ,when i’m naughty! i get spanked, over his knees he knows i don’t really like it but then he says it’s my fault on friday, iwent out and got a ticket for speeding. i knew iwas in for it, so when i game home i went to him slipped of my skirt and placed myself over his knees, he understood that somthing happened, bit i didnt tell him what well after 20 i did but nit made me feel much better

What a thread - a nice “read!”

I definitely endorse spanking for fiances and wives - both when they do something wrong and when they don’t. A lot of women can feel tension building up inside them, they are a about to explode, and a good bare bottom spanking to tears can release that tension. You don’t have to wait for them to actually lose their temper or cause trouble. Sometimes it is a tension-reliever to them to know (feel) that someone else is definitely in charge.

I give my girlfriend maintenance spankings when I have time; our relationship works best with three a week. Less than one a week means we are heading for trouble.

This is a girl who never really does anything wrong, she is submissive, but strong-willed. She thrives on a combination of attention, sexual care, and spanking.

And yes, she is dynamic in business, and earns more than me right now.

In hindsight (no pun intended), if I had stuck to my plan and created a regimen of maintenance spankings for my first wife, that marriage might well have lasted. Waiting for big trouble in a relationship, then giving a well-deserved punishment spanking (what I gave my ex early on) is a cop-out. If you care about the relationship you have to maintain it. Like a car. Only in this case, unexpected flowers, unexpected spankings, listening, lots of attention, even of the teasing variety.

When you spank, ignore her protests. It is her tears that you are aiming for, so she can feel like a little girl.

How harsh you are depends on the girl and the circumstances. Most women want to try spanking, and at least fantasize about a leather strap or hairbrush. I believe in trying implements, but remember to repsect limits (unless she is a real vixen and demonstrates she needs more by fighting back, etc.)

On the other hand, with your hand, you can really have fun and let fly. Give her as much as you feel like - most women complain they don’t get enough. Although, it’s the amount of TIME you are spending warming their bottom, not how hard you hit, that they really cherish.

Try a light spanking first, unless the woman “brats” to get more - some women bruise easily. Give it a day, then let loose after you see the damage from the first spanking.

Pay attention to all the women above who wrote they enjoy being forced to show marks, having their friends hear that they are spanked, sitting on a sore bottom, etc. These are turn-ons for women, don’t judge them, be sexually generous and give them the conditions thney need to feel secure, loved, conquered, protected, mastered.

Women are strong - much stronger than we believe. They need, and long for, someone strong enough to control them - so they can be weak and vulnerable and open, to that one man only. She doesn’t perceive it as losing. She experiences it as weeding out all the weak males who she won’t let mate with her. The queen bee only wants the best.

Regards all.

I think that women need to get good spankings with a hair brush at times but i also think that men need to be spanked good at times too.

I would just love to get a good spanking right now! or even give one !!!

No, I do not think that a man has the right to spank his girlfriend or wife. I am in a relationship right now and have been living with this man for over a year. A few months ago we were having an argument while he was getting ready to leave for work. I was very upset that he was ignoring me and wasn’t arguing back. So I did something that I know I should’nt have but I was very upset at the time, I threw a cup of coffee at him. I was not intending it to hit him but it did and the coffee splashed on his white shirt. I was as shocked as he was and I didnt know what to say. He came up to me as I was sitting on the bed and he turned me around and smacked my behind very hard about 3 times. He told me that I better not ever do anything like that again. He changed his shirt and left. I was crying and hurt, I did not like the way I felt. I felt like a child. Since then I have never done anything like that to him again, but I am still a little bit frightened of him. He has never apologized for hitting me. I think that men have no right to hit a female ever.

Sounds like you both were violent with each other. While he had no to right to spank you a moment of explosive temper could’ve gone worse. You two need to talk. And you had no right to throw the coffee on him.

Many men and women enjoy spankings, with plenty of men enjoy being the ones spanked, as a form of pleasure having nothing to do with ‘rights.’ Mutually agreed upon spankings should never be confused with nonconsensual acts.

IT’s difficult to read the text of this website, or whatever it is. But I say, yes, they should be spanked, depending on numerous factors- such as are they maniulative? Yes? Spank them!

Personally, I would never hit a female. A man is physically capable of hurting a female very serverely if he becomes violent with her. So I do not believe that any man ever has to hit a female in self-defense. All he has to do really is hold her down till she calms down. Now on the other hand if a female is acting very childish or hitting or even throwing coffee like the woman in an earlier comment stated she did to her live-in boyfriend, then a spanking would probably be the best thing for her.
If she wants to act like a child, then she should be treated like one. And I’m sure a few hard smacks on her behind won’t cause any permanent damage. Except maybe to her ego. To all the women out there, if you want to be treated like a lady, then you should act like one.

WOMEN SHOULD SPANK MEN MORE OFTEN. I WAS FIRST SPANKED BY AN OLDER GIRL WHEN I WAS 10. SHE USED A HIGH HEEL. IT WAS THE MOST PLEASUREABLE EXPERIENCE I’VE EVER HAD!!!!!

I believe that under some conditions a man has not only the right but an obligation to spank his wife. When my wife married me, she promised to love, honor and obey me. In twelve years of marriage, I have had to spank her two times. The first time was shortly after we were married.We were having an argument during which she slapped my face, grabbed her car keys and headed for the door. I told her to put the keys down and sit down. She walked out the door and returned an hour later saying she was ready to talk. I told her that she had shown total disrespect for me by slapping me and had deliberately disobeyed me by leaving when I had told her not to and that I was going to have to punish her for the good or our marriage.I firmly turned her over my knee and delivered a sound spanking to her bare bottom. The next time was some years later and had to do with her countermanding a punishment my son had received. He had been in trouble at school, so I told him that he could not spend the night with one of his friends as he had planned on the following weekend. When I got home that Friday afternoon, my son was not at home. I asked where he was and my daughter told me he was at his friends for the weekend. I asked my wife why he was there and she said that she told him that he could go and that I was being unreasonable. I sent my daughter outside to play, took my wife into the den , turned her over my knee and spanked her bottom and then went and picked my son up from his friends house and grounded him for two additional weeks. I would like to hear from other husbands and wives who read this and get their opinions. Feel free to email me at greencovespringsguy@aol.com

I think that in relationships where a woman wants the man to take charge, it’s entirely appropriate. And there’s an enormous difference between a man disciplining his wife with a spanking, and lashing out at her violently because he can’t control his temper (like when people throw things at each other while fighting). I’m a very strong-willed woman, and if a man ever hit me, I’d be gone in a flash. But if a man spanked me when I was being a brat… Well, then I’d think he was strong-willed enough to handle me. If you tell your man that you think it’s wrong for him to spank you, and he does it anyway, then leave; he’s not the man for you. Of course, this goes both ways. If a woman wants to spank her man when he’s disobedient, and he’s agreeable, go for it. I wouldn’t spank my guy, but that’s a personal preference, not because I think women should neccesarily be submissive.

My husband not only spanks me but uses other forms of incouragement and discipline such as corner time, washing my mouth out with soap, loss of free time, essays and sentences, etc. I can honestly say without shame that without Him being the head of our household I would probably be a raving * most of the time.

kitten

Let me preface this by saying I’m not a crackpot or a co-dependent kook. I’m a married professional woman in my late-30’s with a life-long spanking fetish. The earliest spanking fantasies I can remember occurred when I was around six. I remember thinking how much I would fancy being spanked by David Brinkley. Go figure. I don’t know what led to those fantasies. Maybe it was because my parents believed in corporal punishment and something in my little brain folded it into the mix of what I considered loving, protective behavior. Like a lot of spankos, I’ve spent the majority of my life in relative embarrassment over my fetish. A fellow spanko friend once said something that has struck me as true: “Being a spanko is harder than being gay.” I think she was right; today you can tell someone you’re gay and because it’s such an open topic a lot of the stigma has been removed. Gay people are accepted of just being wired that way, which is only right because they are. But tell someone you’ve got strong submissive tendencies and get psychosexual fulfillment from spanking and they’re ready to give you their therapist’s card. Some of those who’ve posted are among the crowd who sees people like me as a sick, spineless shill who’s sold out the feminist sisterhood. But the truth is, even if you haven’t made peace with what makes me tick, I have. It’s as much of who I am as my brown hair, blue eyes and freckles. As a woman, I’m proud to embrace my little quirk rather than fight it. It’s a choice I’ve made, and isn’t feminism about choice? Does my husband spank me? From time to time, he does. Sometimes it’s for fun and sometimes it’s for disicpline. The fun ones are gratifying. The discipline ones are painful yet (well after the fact) satisfying to that hidden part of my brain that equates spanking with love. I purposefully sought out a dominant man - the yin to my yang - who is as comfortable as a disciplinarian as I am as a disciplinee. He’s very matter-of-fact about the role spanking pays in our life while I’m far more instrospective about the whole thing. I think he’s more basic in that he sees it as a good tool for calming down his fiery little wife. A slap to my bottom is part of our bedroom spice, but when it comes down to real disciplinary spankings they are rare. I can count on one hand the number of ” real”spankings I’ve gotten from him. Probably the worst was for throwing away some papers in a cleaning frenzy after my husband had specifically told me to let him go through them first. There were some important documents among them. The incident resulted in about twenty really hard spanks with his hand. Unlike a lot of spankos, I’m an oddity in that my pain tolerance isn’t very high, hence my husband has never needed anything worse than a paddle to get the point across and usually not even that. If he were to pull out a cane, I’d probably run away from home. To those who thinks a spanked woman is weak, let me just say that in my opinion, acknowledging and incorporating this need into my life has made me stronger. Having an affinity for boundaries but that doesn’t mean I’m a doormat. In fact, I’d wager that if my close friends knew how willingly submissive I was at home they’d fall over in shock, as they know me to be a rather aggressive person. As to the question of whether a man should spank his wife, I think it’s unwise to generalize on that point. If both partners mutually agree to incorporate this type of activity into their relationship then it’s fine. But to say it should be done because men are naturally superior is just stupid. Men may be stronger than women, but that doesn’t make them superior. Chimpanzees are also stronger than humans and I don’t see humans deferring to them. Being a brute does not make one a natural leader. And don’t even get me started on the types who try to justify spanking with Biblical verses. That’s just bunk. I do have to say that I agree with someone who pointed out that a lot of the anecdotes here and on other spanking sites are really manifestations of unrealized fantasies. But let’s not be too hard on the authors. A lot of times, a woman’s written white lies of how the she was spanked by her husband in front of his friends, etc., is the first step in a journey towards dealing with her spanking desires in an anonymous setting. And to those who flame and criticize those of us speaking out, I must just ask what in the world are you doing here? Another big lie is “I just stumbled on this site.” More likely, if you’re here, you’re here for a reason. The condemnation you spew at us isn’t really aimed at us but at the shame you feel over what drew you here in the first place. And that’s not meant to be hurtful; it’s just the words of someone who was once where you are now.

Should a woman be spannked? Interesting quetion.

I think yes but only for pleasure :-P

I personally love to be spanked but only in a sexual setting. I don’t think it has a place in a mutually respectful relationship, as discipline. You gotta wonder about women who need to be disciplined. Have they truly grown up, or are they still children who have replaced the parent with the spouse?

i recieve spanking and paddlings from my wife for a variety of offences i am plcaes over the bed and soundly spanked , sometimes i spank her but nly lightly i belive that spankings within marriage are good but should be done by agreement with both partners all mt spankings are on the bare and are for punishment purposes

As long as she’s into it..I say spank her..for punishment, fun or erotic pleasure..and a few stingy love pats on/off all day wouldn’t hurt either..just make sure she’s into it guys..or you could find yourself in jail..not in public..unless you want to find yourself w/legal problems..

Why would anyone think consenuel spanking is abuse?..the only way that can be is if an abuser is using spanking be it consensuel or otherwise as an excuse to abuse his lady..and those kind of men can be spotted during the very first spanking..

To those that believe we that love spanking need conseling?..Hey..don’t knock it till you’ve tried it..hehehehe..

i have longed to be spanked for a long time but have never had the courage to ask for it.I wish to meet a man that would warm my bare bottom.

My wife is expected to honor and obey me. In our home the man is the head of the house. Most of the time when she needs to be corrected it’s done in private. However, if she embarrasses me in front of other people I return the favor. One night a few friends were over to watch the football game and I asked my wife if she would get everyone a beer. She snapped back “I’m not your servant get your own F#####$# beers.” All my friends burst out laughing as guys will in circumstances like this. I was pretty embarrassed. Well, in a fit of rage I grabbed her and stripped her naked. I then got two of my friends to hold her bent over the sofa as I took my belt off. I gave her about 50 whacks. Her behind was well marked. After her punishment I told her that now she could get every one a beer. She reached for her clothes but I told her that she wouldn’t be needing them the rest of the night. After she gave everyone a beer I told her to stand in the corner until we needed her again. A couple of my friends commented that they thought it was hot that my wife had no pubic hair.( She is required to keep her pubic area shaved.) When she heard this she started to cry. After everyone went home I gave her another spanking and had sex with her. She told me she was sorry and that she was glad that I didn’t let her get away with being disrespectful.

Being a good Christian i no a woman is supposed to be submitted to her husband. She needs to be punished if her husband thinks she needs to be, but in the case above of the woman being displayed infront of her husbands friends is wrong. A wife is supposed to be given to her husband and her husband only. He should have done it in private and just scolded her then and he should not have let his friends bad talk her.

i am naughty. i often need a spanking to keep me in tow. my hubby spanks me when needed and sometimes i end up in the corner. his frinds are thinking of doing the same to their girlfriends too.

My husband stands behind me the rod in his hands, I am spanked firmly on a regular basis, infact daily. It is a necessary element in our relationship as I am a very obstinate girl and need to be shown my place in the household. Generally my husband will use a belt, or a rod, but there are occasions when a shoe will do quite nicely. I am spanked until the point of tears, and on the on set of tears I am spanked harder and occasionally raped in the process. Of course this is all about our sexual fantasy, but I must say, there are times when I enjoy using the belt on him. A few good welts keep me in line. But now, I am entering the domain of disciplanary punishment. I feel it is my husbands duty to punish me when required, but my husband is not of firm countenance, and if he knew I was belittling him, he would slap me hard across the face and tell me I was his little whore.

As a woman, I agree that a spanking relieves tension and allows a sort of nurturing and openess to the relationship. A good spanking and then a good holding always set me straight, what starts out in play ends in seriousness and allows us to bond in a sensual and intimate way that we both enjoy. So I say, if you both enjoy it do it. But only if it is fairplay and not foulplay.

There is something about answering to your husband that is sexually arousing and gives a woman a feeling of safety and being loved. Especially if she has lacked parental authority in her life. I myself lacking parental authority was thrilled when my husband first spanked me, and spanked me hard, it was the only time in my life thatI felt like a small child, that I felt someone cared enough to take me in hand…And this was a good feeling, if only for the experience.

So men spank your wives and spank them soundly!

you people are all sick! Go and get some help you underdeveloped masochists!!!!!!!!!!!!
As for the sadists stop pretending you believe in Christian values, when in fact you are as corrupt and perverse as those hardcore lunatics you see in the bondage films.

No, no, no…it’s not a sadist thing. In my case, it keeps our home running with peace & harmony. It’s a consentual agreement - that he will discipline me when needed and I will submit to it. As far as the argument that it isn’t Christian - check out Hebrews 12:11…and also remember how God referred to Israel as his “wife” and spoke of “chastising” her. But that’s for everyone to decide for themselves - scriptures can be translated many different ways. So the question, should wives be spanked? I guess I would say that I know it isn’t something every couple should do. But I do believe that it is something that was intended with our gender roles. Yes, wives should be spanked when necessary - if it is something that has been agreed upon. However, wives who are practicing this kind of tradional lifestyle should also give every effort to submit to their husbands and avoid the need for discipline. There would be alot less divorce if wives respected their husbands authority.

We are satanists and believe that the woman is dominant in the relationship so to hell with your scriptures and righteous hierarchial views. We think that husbands need to be spanked and respect the creative force of the goddess, with whom all life would cease to exist. Men are dispensible creatures and thus need not be revered or respected especially by their spouses. In fact in our household it is a matriarchal structure in which our husbands must submit and obey. Women need to stop giving their power over to this obviously underdeveloped and inferior species. In fact we keep our men for sexual gratification, and for dispending our frustrations through continual violence; men are good for three things, fuck, clean, money. We have a new theory in our religion that in a few years there will be a complete reversal of the roles and men will be enslaved in camps, only the pretty ones…the rest will be executed after puberty.

The black circle

My husband does his best to modify my behavior in a peacable manner, but sometimes feels compelled to scold and, when necessary, spank me. Twice (n a 2-year period), he has spanked me in pubically (on my bare bottom)and twice he has spanked me in front of his friends and family (bare bottom, again). In private, he spanks my bare botttom about once a month or as often as he feels is necessary. After a spanking, i am sent to stand in the corner, panties down. While he ALWAYS spanks hard (using his hand or a brush), the times he has spanked me in front of other people has been very humiliating.

I believe it is every husbands right to spank his wife when I married in 1994 I promised to love honour and obey him. The first time he spanked me was when I was 19 I had been seeing him for about 8 weeks we were in a club & I was flirting with his pals he came over to me and said I was naughty and that he was going to spank me when we went home I thought he was joking …little did I know.After that first time I felt confused I had enjoyed it why? I felt loved, wanted, cared for from that day on I have been his and his alone I fell in love. I have now been married for 10 very happy years and I know if I do wronge I will feel his belt across my bare bottom. He goes to work earns the money to keep me and it is my duty to look after him & our home to be a good wife.

I sometimes wished my first husband would turn me over his knee and spank me after I had said or done something really objectionable, rather than just acting hurt. We might both have felt better faster, rather than letting the issue fester. But the idea would have horrified him, as he is at least as much of a feminist as I am (and I am one, for sure). I never felt a desire to spank him, however, partly because he was always so (maddeningly) reasonable, unlike me with my temper. That relationship ended after 18 years, though we remained friends.

Now I have a boyfriend who enjoys erotic spanking as foreplay and I have discovered that I love it. I had had spanking-sex fantasies before, but did not know whether the real thing would be as much fun as the fantasy. For some people, I hear, the real thing turns out to be very different than they had imagined and does not work for them at all. But I love it.

Then some weeks ago, I did the unthinkable. I had sex with another man, a friend, and immediately felt just rotten about it all. I ended up confessing the truth to my boyfriend, not being able to live with the lie. My boyfriend was naturally angry, but he waited several days until he had calmed down and then he gave me a choice — I could accept a real spanking to show that my regret was real, and to help me remember to remain faithful in future, or he would leave me. I am quite certain he knew which I would prefer.

I won’t go into details, but he drew the spanking out over a longish evening with much lecturing (and many tearful apologies from me). He did a very creditable job, enough that I was still sore the next day and had marks to help me remember the event. But he also later that same night gave me a great deal of sexual pleasure, to remind me of why I don’t want him to disappear and what I had risked losing through my behaviour.

I am quite sure I do not want to experience that type of spanking again anytime soon, and I am quite sure that the memory will help me watch my actions around other men in future. I am grateful to still have my boyfriend and not at all angry with him over the spanking. Because he waited until his anger had abated and because I had a choice, I did not experience the event as abusive. I suppose in a way it might seem that he was claiming ownership of my body, but he did not hold me down, I could have gotten up and said “F* this” at any time, and he did not stoop to calling me a slut or whore or other ugly names, but rather just described how my behaviour had made him feel. Like my ex-husband he is very reasonable, but unlike the ex, he drew a line in the sand and called me to account for my behaviour in a way that did not damage the relationship. I feel more committed to this relationship as a result. I want the rest of our spanking activity to be light sexual foreplay, but I now know that there are some circumstances in which I will willingly submit to the real thing for the sake of restoring balance and peace. I would not accept a fully “disciplinary” relationship in which he made all the rules and punished me without my consent, or being humiliated in front of friends, etc…, but even in an equal relationship I now think there can be a place for some types of spankings.

I know I do, tho the actual spankings hurt and are embarassing but I need the limits, structure, and consequences he gave me and I always knew they were given in love.

I was spanked whenever I muck up, which was fairly often then sent to do a little time in the corner thinking about why I was there (tho all my focus was on how bad my bottom hurt) & I can say it did me a world of good and now that Im without it …. sigh

runningamok

I wish i could go over the knee and get a good well deserved hairbrush spanking on my bare bottom that is my most favorite fantasy and i would love to go over any womens knee bare bottomed

Yep, I agree that most women do enjoy a good butt warming once in a while, either for erotic or punishment reasons. Some women love reading a good spanking story (or writing them) but don’t like being spanked in real life. Some would rather do it than read about it … but I really think all women think about, or have thought about being spanked.

Kiki

I have been married for 21 years to a wonderful man 17 years my senior. Regarding spanking it has always been “up to me” when my panties will be yanked to my knees and I find myself over his lap for a firm sound painful spanking. Although many a time I have not consciously wanted to be in this humiliating position (especially when we were at someone else’s house),in retrospect I can see how I was pushing the envelope, testing or just plain begging for some attention.
I hate being spanked and find it degrading and embarassing but the knowledge that certain misdeeds,disrespect,disobedience will be accounted for give me boundries that are clear. I am the one who at times acts like a brat thus I am punished like a child who needs to understand who is in charge. The spankings are immediate and firm, no amount of begging or squirming will lessen their severity but after my bottom is warmed and hit with his hand and sometimes a wooden implement and I am sobbing over his knees, he calmly explains to me and anyone else that certain actions or attitudes will not be tolerated and that he knows of no better way to make a lasting impression. Maybe someday I will be mature enoough to never need a spanking but so far that time has not arrived, although it is extremely rare that I am punished…about 2-3 times a year. We have an excellent relationship and I am very happy.

I was never spanked growing up but now Im married have a very loving man who does not take no for an answer I am to do what he wants when he wants because Im his wife when I dont do what im told he will ask again if I dont do it then I know its going down hill. He will always give me 2 chances to obey and if I dont I get spanked most of the time face down over the bed bare butt and with a belt 10 at least. I to was a bad girl in front of friends one night and to show the guys how to make there wives obey he made me take my pants and panties off go get the belt bring it to him and say I didnt obey then he made me bend over the kit. table as he beat me 30 times with his belt then he told his guy friends each one could spank me with there belt and made me take theres off and hand it to them. I never forgot that and never had to get a spanking like that again. that was 5 years ago we are still happy together and I still get his belt on my bare butt a few times a month.

My husband spanks me when I need it, and we are very happily married. When I have a bad attitude or get sassy towards him, he doesn’t hesitate to put me over his knee and paddle my butt until I’m crying and begging him to stop.

I enjoy being a submissive wife and I have become much more obedient since he began spanking me a few years ago.

He enjoys spanking me and usually expects me to thank him with oral sex afterwards. Sometimes he even continues spanking me while I perform oral sex on him, which he finds very arousing. I am not allowed to have any sexual pleasure after a spanking because then I would confuse discipline with pleasure, but I am happy to satisfy him because he does a good job keeping me in line.

As an emotional woman, I need a logical man to straighten me out sometimes, and the spankings really work!

I am spanked and I needed it emotionally sometimes. For you women who want it and brat to get it - just ask. It isn’t becoming to behave like a brat. If I feel that edgy feeling and tension building up I say so and we dialogue about role play - then act it out. I feel his strength, get to be bratty or childish but it is fantasy. Other time there are things I am working to improve in myself and we talk and develop rules and consequences. It isn’t because I am immature or weak. I am actually very strong. However, having consequences helps me to not berate myself for messing up on my self improvement - it allows me to accept the consequences and move on. So on one hand yes, I need it - more than just fantasy, but on the other it isn’t that I am weak and require his control. His discipline releases tension and helps me be easier on myself, relax and feel safe. My “daddy” as a child was married to another woman and if we misbehaved in any way he would just not see us for a while because we “disrupted the household” Now I was a good kid - I am sure I disrupted the house like any busy child does - but I was not a brat, wasn’t mean, didn’t destroy ect. So in someways his willingness to spank me when I feel I messed up helps me to not fear that he will leave me or ignore me. His discipline relieves me of some of the overwhelming pressure I would put on myself. SO for me it is more than fantasy (although at times it is pure fantasy) but I don’t play bratty games and he doesn’t “control” me. I listen to him and accept his input readily because he is bright and intelligent and truly commited to my well being. I do get spanked for discipline - but it is not because he sees me has needing correction for displeasing him - it is usually because I have displeased myself. So yes, spank a woman if she wants/needs it - but let her be a grown up - discuss what she wants to work on - what her own standards are for herself. And women, please don’t push him to spank you in a childish I will be a bigger brat until he does fashion, if you need it for stress relief - tell him. If you need to have it feel real and you need to get some bratty energy out - tell him and role play so you can do that - but making your man stressed in order to get him to spank you doesnt really give him or you the respect you deserve.

Wonderfully well said - thanks.

Be honest - everyone who woman that posted that it was ok to be spanked are actually men. Tell the truth now!

Plenty of women bloggers write about their pleasure in being spanked.

Likewise men who enjoy having women spank them.

Yes wives should be disciplined frimly for misconduct. I have a girlfriend and i remove her panties and spank her with my bare hand whenever she is bad. The other day i caught her arriving home at 4 in the morning. She was embarrased and knew what to expect. I just slowly removed her clothing after she entered her room and put her across my lap. Her face looked shocked, her mouth wide open. I spanked her firmly with my hand, violently until her bottom was very red. She actually thanked me after for setting her straight. Women need discipline for misbehavior She has always agreed to be spanked if she is bad. So I discipline her. If we men do not spank women they will get out of line. They need to remember that misconduct is not tolerated by their men!!!!!

Yes she needs to be spanked. Sometimes I just swat her bottom with my hand. Other times I have to give her a whipping with a twig or my belt.

I feel women should be spanked because they are out of control these days! Also I think relationships would last longer. Anywaz if my boyfriend didn’t I would think of him as a pussy! I met my boyfriend when I was 15. I am now 18 and he is 30! He spanks me when I get an attitude or act like a child. I also like to play alot so also when I hit him in a playful way he hates that so much he says it is disrespectful so I try not to, but umm.. it happens anywaz. Also I get spanked for lying, and when I skipped school when I was 16 with my friend Angela, man he got me good that time in front of two of my friends too! I was so embarrsed. It kinda turns me on though. Not all the time because it is serious and it hurts, but when it’s playful I like it alot!! So women should be spanked they will act better I sure do. There is a big difference on how I act!! Thanx Munky

Well said John! Do you think it is wrong to want a man who has control over you? My boyfriend and I have a weird relationship everyone says I do all the house work, make his lunch for work, message his feet, sometimes wash his hair in the bath or shower, give him comments all the time, I work, and also go to school because I am only 18. Also everyone thinks it is weird because he spanks me if I get an attitude about the tasks I am suppose to perform. Which I have no problem with that because I believe women should be spanked. I also believe that if the world went back to traditonal times relationships would last longer. So men SPANK your wives! umm.. If they say it’s okay because unlike me I have no choice, they may press charges against you!! Kay! Thanks Tiffany

I think spanking is fun BUT it works both ways. Men get out of line ALOT and need to put back into their place. So Ladies get out those paddles, whips, floggers whatever your favorite implement is and put those men in their place.

I love my husband and he loves me. I know how difficult it is for him to see the woman he loves cry, but we both know it is neccessary for a happy marriage. When he was a boy, he used to see how loving his parents were toward each other, he also saw that his father knew how to discipline his mother. He never saw it as a mean, or angry thing. It was done with love, and his mother always thanked his father for being strong enough to keep harmony in their home. The first time my husband ever took me over his knee was at his parent’s house, before we were married. We went to visit his parents, and they said we had to have separate rooms. I thought that was a bad idea, and said so. His parents had such a dissappionted look on their faces, and my boyfriend and I both saw it. I couldn’t understand their glances towards him as we were having dinner. After dinner, his mother took him into the kitchen to have a talk with him. While we were waiting in the living room, his father asked me if I loved his son. I said yes, and I wanted to marry him. His father explained to me that the only way a man can be happy being married is if he is respected, and allowed to be the head of the household. Before I could ask for further explanation, my boyfriend and his mother came out of the kitchen, and he proposed to me. I was completely shocked, and of course said yes! But he said I would have to agree to a few rules. He explained to me that he wanted to make sue our marriage would be as beautiful as his parents’marriage. He told me I would have to be submissive to him, and love him enought to trust that he would make the right decisions for us. I was so happy that he had just proposed to me I said of course I would. He then told me to lift my skirt. I was frozen in my seat. I realized I had just agreed to submit to him,and now I was afraid. His mother said in a very gentle voice that this was the best way to begin our life together. His father said to him, you need to become the strong man we raised. With that encouragement, he lifted me out of my chair, and pulled up my skirt, and pulled down my panties. I was so scared, I started to ask his mother for help, and all she said was shhh, if you really love our son, you wil be obedient. He puled me over his lap,he had never been so rough with me before. his father smoothed my hair back so he and his wife could see my face. I could see their faces too,they were so happy. My boyfriend then slapped my backside so hard, I yelped. He kept spanking me,and spanking me until I started to cry,and he continued to spank me even after that. The flood of emotions and the closeness I felt to my boyfriend wasn’t what I expected. I felt more feminine than I had ever felt before. When I looked up I saw tears of happiness in his parents’ eyes and that made me smile.My boyfriend then held me close on his lap saying he loved me,and couldn’t wait to start our life together. It was such a beautiful, bonding experience for all of us, it was the second happiest day of my life (the happiest being our wedding day). Being physically dominated by my husband has been the most liberating experience of my life. He gives me disciplinary spanking when I need it, and he gives me maintenance spakings once a week. If he feels there isn’t enough time to spank me to tears, he will slap my face until I cry, which usualyy take a much shorter time. If we are going to his parents house, or to see friends who also live with loving domestic dominance, he wil make sure he slaps my face hard eough to leave a mark for the rest of the night. We want our loved ones to know he is not neglecting the needs of our family. I’m very proud to be married to a man strong enough to take me in hand. I am a repectful, loving, obedient wife. I never forget to look him in the eyes and thank him sincerely for being strong enough to make me submit,and correct me when I’m wrong. I know the importance being sexualyy available to my husband, and the harmony it brings to our household when I submit to whatever he decides is the right thing to do. If more husbands were strong enough to stand up and do the right thing, there would be less divorce in this country.

Hi I am in a very traditional marriage and i spank my wife. Although she is a good women she misbehaves sometimes. Spanking just happened for us. She did not consent but since we live in Virginia I figured she would not rebel at spanking. Sometimes she does not do the chores and is gone from the home all day. If I do not give her permission she is not supposed to go out. And sometimes she is not home for days. I use severe discipline. Very severe. My hand usually slaps her bottom over an hour to firmly impose discipline. My advantage is that her bottom is very big. So big it allows her to take extra punishment. I do not ask her permission to spank her. I just spank her. She sometimes calls me an ass over the phone and I get her when i get home. i believe womans have beautiful bottoms for a reason. To get spanked. what makes my relationship interesting is that I am hispanic and my wife is white. They say white woman do not submit. But in the South they do. In the South they accept traditiuonal authority. what is also sexy is when i take off my belt. I sometimes take off my belt and give it to her hard. women are so out of control theses days. They need to be reminded that being submissive is part of being a woman.

The bond that is formed between the dom(me) and the submissive is much stronger than a regular relationship. Certainly something not done casually or on a one stand situation

I am 37 yrs old and my husband is 31. We are christians. I have always been in charge, now that has changed. In fact, I can barely sit comfortable after my tanning last night. I was mouthy, out of line and threw several tantrums, i got 22 over the knee with a paddle, then five over the bed with the paddle, my but is bruised and I am remembering it today. I also get corner time, sentences, grounding, bed times etc. In the bible it says the husband is the head of the wife like christ is the head of the church, i believe christ punishes the church, so should the husband punish the wife. I need the discipline.

I wouldn’t like my future husband to spank me. I currently get spanked by my father, grandfather, and my brother. I am 16. My father spanks me for coming home more than 15 minutes late, swearing, spitting, talking back, not doing my daily chores, etc. He grabs my wrist and drags me onto the front porch hoping someone will walk by, then he pulls my underwear down to my ankles, pulls me over his knee, and soundly spanks me with his open hand, for about 45 minutes, before bed. My grandfather spanks me over his knee every week when I see him, he is very strict about the rules and spanks me when I don’t do everything just right. He sometimes had Grandma hold me down bent over the bed while he whips my bottom with his old leather belt. When my dad is really mad at me but somewhat busy, he orders my older brother to spank the hell out of me, bare bottom. My father will spread my butt cheeks to really make me sorry, and my brother will spank my bottom for over an hour. This happens a couple times a week. I am often spanked in front of my friends by my father, barebottom, and one time he caught us smoking a cigarette and he spanked my friend as well, even pulled off her underwear.

For years, i envisioned a spanking as a few swats & a few tears. Now…my boyfriend has made it clear that he will decide how much blistering my bare fanny needs. In two years, he has spanked my bare bottom many, many times over his knee in front of his friends & family then sent me and my red bottom to the corner (and invited his friends to smack my sore fanny if they felt i deserved it; he has also spanked me in front of his parents and siblings at Christmas. He turned me over his knee in the middle of diner when he thought i had not been respectful, he bared my bottom with his entire family watching and gave me a hard spanking across his knee; at some point, his father brought a wooden spoon and suggested that i be given a good hard paddling, too. My boyfriend gladly obliged and i was paddled after my spanking. There are actually photos of the family at he table woith me in the corner with my panties at my ankles and a sore red fanny from being spanked and paddled. In the last 2 months, my boyfriend has “threatened” to spank my bare behind at Wal-Mart and the local grocery store, promising a second hard paddling at home. Both times, he swatted my bottom really hard, causing strangers to look at us. The truth is that i need and deserve every swat he has landed on my bare fanny. The humiliation of having my bottom bared for a spanking over his knee — whether it is alone or in public — doubles the punishment. My bottom is now spanked about once or twice a month. If my boyfriend sees my behavior as particularly naughty, i can be assured that the punishment to my bottom will be doubly bad. This year, he turned me across his knee and spanked my bare behind during Mardi Gras and demanded that i say that i am a naughty girl who needs a spanking on my bare fanny much more often. Apparently, cameras & microphones were close by when i begged to be spanked regularly — my punishmnet we captured on film and i was spanked until my fanny was too sore to sit! The day after Mardi Gras, my boyfried called my boss and told him that i couldn’t come to work because my bottom was too sore from the well-deserved spankings i’d been given. My boyfriend also told my boss (the manager of a tire store) that he had “his” permission for me to be spanked at work as often and as hard as i needed it, but that he was to be informed so that i would get another hard spanking when i got home!

Being spanked by my boyfriend is probably right —i know i need to be punished. Being spanked on my bare fanny and punished in front of his friends and family is awful — but everybody in his circle of friends and all the family that have been in contact have applauded his actions. They’ve told him that the humiliation of spanking my bare ass in front of “strangers” will add to my punishment and make me more compliant. This week, on the advice of a “friend” he called me while i was working and scolded me on the telephone for overspending. He described the spanking i would get when i arrived at home and demanded that i say aloud (and in public) “yes sir — i have been very naughty and when i get home, i’ll get the spanking i deserve on my bare fanny”. If my boyfriend thinks i have been too quiet, he scolds me again and tells me to loudly repeat “My bare fanny needs a good licking over your knee and i hope you whip me good and hard!” Before i get home, my bottom is stinging in anticipation of the spanking i will get.

Just out of curiosity, how do you women and men approach and introduce this subject with your loved ones? What is your partners’ reaction? How do you take this on and proceed? Sinjun

Women who feel the need to be controlled, reprimanded and punished by their husbands have been brainwashed.

Brainwashed into believing that their moral and ethical capabilities are somehow inferior.

Brainwashed into believing that they don’t have the ability to self-regulate their emotions and their actions; someone must do it for them.

Brainwashed into believing that they have never grown up, and that they never will, so must be protected from themselves. Left to their own devices these women become unbalanced, bratty, histerical and are a danger to society and themselves(see countless confesions of speeding and drinking). If not brought under control, women may even destroy their own marriage.

Self-discipline and self-control, the internalisation of morals and rules are the defining characteristics of adults, not just adult men. Yet you, women in domestic discipline relationships, give away that responsibility, you become infantalised. Many of you are ordered to keep your pubic area free of hair, your behaviours are branded as “bratty” or “spoiled”, you live under a regime of punishment, and your basic liberties are curtailed. You even come to believe all this and act “childishly” or “misbehave” to get attention from your husband. (By the way, if anyone cares to look into the psychology and physiology of punishment you will see that a bad behavior is NOT extinguished by punishment, and you will need to be spanked always. But I get the feeling that this is exactly want you want.)

My real concern about this lifestyle begins when you make assertions about the “natural order” of things, about women’s nature. Your hypocritic stand angers me.

How can you claim to be competent business women in the public domain, able to complete tasks, to self-manage, to behave with integrity (hopefully) and then get home and become morally and emotionally inferior?

Who regulates your feminine misbehaviours, your temperament when you are outside the home? Surely you cannot, otherwise you would do it while you are at home. Maybe a male boss should, or any other male in the absence of your husband. Maybe as a society we should regulate women, say not allow them to be part of the public domain, far too irrational, volatile. Sounds positively victorian. Your discourse is far too dangerous, as you cannot neatly segregate the public from the private.

The old dichotomies of rational-emotional, human-aminal, male-female are worthless as a tool to understand relationships. They are simple, sure. They neatly categorise individuals on the basis of their sex, asign them a role, even moral characteristics. It is a persuasively simple way to find a place in the world, but it robs you of part of your humanness.

IF YOU LIKE TO BE BEATEN AND DOMINATED BY YOU HUSBAND, IF YOU LIKE TO BE MANAGED AS A CHILD, IF DISCIPLINE MAKES YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX, BY ALL MEANS DO IT. BUT PLEASE, BE HONEST: YOUR ROLE PLAY IS JUST THAT, A PRIVATE PLAY. YOU CANNOT MAKE ANY GENERALISATION AS TO THE NATURE OF WOMEN.

AS A WOMAN, YOU ARE ABLE TO SELF MANAGE, YOU CAN THRIVE AND LEARN WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN, YOU ARE AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT, YOU ARE MATURE AND COMPETENT, or if you choose to, you can become that way.

Greetings to all.

Oh my goodness, Rose… you are on the wrong website here. Please step down from your soapbox and allow us to continue with this discussion. You obviously are uncomfortable with this forum, so why are you here?

Since she had a aventure with a collegue of mine,I use to spank my wife every 1st saturday of the month.That was our deal!

She is 32y. She is a nurse and she looks very pretty. So, she is not a frustrated lady, a debile one or a monster…Nobody knows, except her young sister ( because once she came at home when we were occupied by the punishment…) On saturday morning,when she has to be punished,Claire wake up very early. She has to be dressed with a special dark dress (very short,and open in the back) with a mark:”i was a bad girl” She cleans the house and prepare the meal. Then, we go to the sleeping room.She prepare the bed and the rod. She has a corner-time, hands on the head. After half an hour ,she has to undress totally and to lay on the bed, a big cushion under her boby.Sometimes when she is too nervous I have to attach her to the edge of the bed. But normally, she is very cooperative. I begin to spank her with the hand and then with the rod…She cries , giggles or try to escape but…after her punishment (about half an hour), she thanks me to be her Husband and her Master. She relaxes during one or two hours and then, at the end of the day, I come back in the room and we make love.It is so sweet!!

Some wives only understand language of a sore warm bottom. My wife is one of those women. I grew up in a very traditional family my mother never hesitated to enforce her rules with bare bottom spankings. Karen grew up disorganized un-structured and acted out. One unpleasant evening with family Karen’s insolence and selfishness came to a head and I instinctively pulled my sassy mouth wife over my lap while yanking her panties to her knees. She yelled, squirmed,kicked while my family observed. I gave her bottom several spanks with firm well placed aim making her cheeks redden up. Someone handed me a wooden spoon and told me to make this worth remembering. I finished off Karen’s first (but not last) spanking with hard painful smacks on an already sore bottom. My wife was mortified and humiliated and sobbing but not defiant. Being subjugated in front of others and the thorough job I did miraculously installed a submissive attitude in my wife that I have cultured over the last years. She understands disrespect,insolence,sassing will never ever NOT be rewarded with a VERY sore bottom regardless who is around. I won’t say it’s magic but a good old fashioned bare bottom spanking in front of family saved our marriage. I just wish I had used spanking early on in our relationship. So my answer is DEFINITLY YES some wives thrive on rules being reinforced over a man’s lap.

My husband spanks me and I’m glad he does. Regular spankings remind me to be a submissive, obedient wife. He spanks me when I misbehave or have a bad attitude.

If more wives were spanked, there would probably be fewer divorces.

I have been married for 30 years to a wonderful woman who is very much my soul mate in many ways. I cannot imagine ever wanting another woman. She is extremely intelligent (graduated from college at 17, speaks 6 languages, etc.) and educated. Her family is very traditional British but also was run pretty much by her mother who was a teacher.

As part of this package our sex life has been very good over a long period of time.

When I met the woman who would become my wife we were very inexperienced sexually. We hung out together and spent a lot of time talking to each other over a period of 3 months before the relationship became sexual.

During the period when were just becoming sexual (the first month) she made a cruel remark to me and apologized later. She then suggested that I give her a spanking as an atonement, which I did over her jeans. I was unaware of the concept of spanking fetishes at the time. I found the experience interesting and maybe a little arousing but not much more than that.

This same event repeated itself about a two years later. The second time I let her have it pretty good. She later remarked that it stung a lot.

After the birth of our first child a few years later our sex life tailed off a bit - mostly because we were tired and busy. When we started having more time for each other my wife asked me to spank her as foreplay prior to sex.

After this experience which I enjoyed I decided to purchase a paddle to spank her with. When I used the paddle for the first time she had a very strong sexual reaction - probably the strongest she has ever had. I found spanking as foreplay a lot of fun. After that for at least 20 years I spanked her pretty much whenever I felt in the mood as part of foreplay. Occasionally, mostly due to being busy or tired she would ask me not to spank her which I would agree to.

In the past 3 years or so my wife has suffered from job related stress and depression, and some of this time was spent on anti-depressants which have caused our sex life to be not so great. During this time she has not wanted to be spanked. Once she said that she felt she had outgrown spanking. Over the past year she has been able to find a better job and get off the anti-depressants. This has made our sex life reblossom.

Recently I asked if she was interested in a spanking prior to sex. While she was a little reluctant we went slowly and she responded very well and ultimately enjoyed the experience very much. Her feeling after this is that she is probably ready to enjoy this activity again, at least occasionally.

So I am very hopeful that this fetish which she has transferred to me will be a source of a great deal of fun in the future.

There are still many aspects of it I don’t understand. For example the early incidents could have been taken to have a disciplinary flavor, any overtures I made in that area since have been turned down. That is ok with me, I don’t think she needs to be handled in that manner at all. She is a very competitant person. I suspect there is some sort of self-image that conflicts with the idea of spanking in a disciplinary setting. Some day I hope that I’ll be able to bring this up in some sort of roleplaying context, but who knows. I think it would be a lot of fun to add this.

In any case I’d encourage anyone who has a fantasy in this area to explore it. You might get a lot of enjoyment out of it. But be sure it is consensual as otherwise it is just abuse.

I think that wives should be spanked for disciplinary reasons as well as for sexual reasons, although they are different things. But I disagree with those who say that she should be spanked in front of friends or in public. The husband’s authority over the wife is a private thing. My husband and I had played around with light spankings in a fun sexual way, but I had never been properly spanked for purely disciplinary reasons. About six months into our marriage, my husband caught me out in a lie, which I had tried to cover with another lie. I tried to talk my way out of it, but he acted really quickly and put me over his knee without my consent. He pulled up my skirt and pulled down my panties and smacked my bottom really hard with his bare hand. I was in shock. I didn’t feel turned on by it and I was really angry. It was a really hard spanking and not playful, and he held me down so that I couldn’t get away, even though I was swearing at him and making threats about having him arrested. He kept spanking until I cried (it really, really hurt) and admitted my lies and promised never to lie to him again. I have never been so shocked, as it was so unexpected. Now I know that spanking works. I would rather be spanked than have him give me the silent treatment or walk away and stew over what I have done. I feel much safer in our relationship knowing that there are lines that cannot be crossed, that he has the final authority when I have pushed him too far. We have a belt now, which is very rarely used but has been used on my buttocks. Mostly he spanks me with his hands but his spanking are always fair and always focus my mind. If I misbehave in public, he would never spank me there, but he gives me “the look” that tells me I will be spanked as soon as we get home. That is enough to make me reign in my behaviour. Although I didn’t consent to the first spanking and was shocked by it, I consent now because it is the quickest way to be reminded that he is the man and the head of our household. He looks after me very well, but he also ensures that I know misbehaviour will have bad consequences in the immediate future. He is always consistent about the rules and the spankings are consistently hard and definitely not designed to turn me on. What I am turned on by, is how safe I feel in our marriage, I know what the boundaries are, and how strong and firm he is. A spanking from your husband is preferable to punishments such as the withdrawal of affection, resentments, and so on.

YESSSS!!! spanking is so sexual and wonderfull. I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 years now and when I do something wrong or act like a little brat he shows me whos boss my taking me over his knee and spanking me. I think it is part of a heatly relationship & shows the girls that he’s not a baby and he’ll show you who’s boss.

What a great site, I came across it by accident. I loved reading all the stories, took me ages to get through them all. Have fun everyone, thats what its all about, Happy spanking..

I agree that a loving and mature husband has to know how to keep his wife behaving properly and obeying her vow of obedience at all times. Iam a well disciplined wife of 4 years and I am only spanked as punishment not playful or erotic. My husband does not believe that any lesson is learned unless a wife feels humiliation combined with pain. I am mortified everytime I have to bare my bottom or strip completely naked for my husband to lecture me and then administer as severe a bare bottom blistering as he feels my disobedience deserves. When I know that I am going to be spanked,I am very nervous and almost want to plead like a schoolgirl but I know that will only serve my bare bottom worse in the end. I have never felt mistreated by these disciplinings and my husband treats me royally and adores me when I am an obedient,loving and attentive wife. I know deep inside me that I need to be severely disciplined by the man I have accepted as my loving and devoted husband. I too, like many of the other wives am so much more obedient when I am put in my proper place. I also have been spanked,always bare bottomed, many times in front of family and friends. Of course the shame is unimaginable, yet if I had not acted in an offensive manner I would not be baring my bottom and having it blistered in front of others, now would I? My bare bottom is as sore as can be right now from a spanking with my grandmother’s wooden hairbrush that I received this morning in front of my mother-in-law.I was very rude in my tone of voice to her and my husband swiftly and soundly blistered my bare bottom. I then apologized to my mother-in-law,who does delight in my bottom being reddened, invited her for dinner, which I prepared wearing no panties so that my sore bottom was exposed but covered in front by my cooking apron that ties around my waist. I lovingly hugged and was hugged even more so by my husband and thanked him for disciplining me properly today and these past 4 years of our marriage. We look forward to a lifetime of loving and happiness. I am just so thankful that I have a husband who stands his ground and does what is truly necessary to keep me in line and our marriage and home secure.

What an interesting site! My wife is an educated and once snobbish woman. In her last marriage it became necessary for her to covertly take “charge” of many household functions, and this idea carried over into our marriage. This created many conflicts as ultimtely, in a relationship of two, one person must be the final arbitrator. In most cases, I feel that the man with his more pragmatic mental makeup, can best fill that position. So, several months ago, after my wife went against my wishes, and made her own decision on an important matter which had many negative repercussions, she finally consented to let me be the the HOH (head of household).

I consult her on most minor and all major decisions, and have only had to break a tie once or twice. The obvious missing component here is a punishment for misbehaving, however that may be defined for each couple. Without a punishment, there is no incentive to behave or respect the authority she gave me. How many children would obey their parents without the knowledge that there will be some negative consequences if they do not?

So, a week ago, my wife went against my mandate to not criticize me (by calling me hurtful and insulting names in front of our child). My immediate reaction was to want to spank her, something we have lightly talked about but with which she is uncomfortable. My anger with her was so intense that I later promised her an immediate divorce if she repeated the offense. I rarely threaten in any situation, but instead simply do what I think needs to be done. But now, if she repeats her mistake, I will leave her, because I said I would.

But, maybe I wouldn’t do that, afterall. I don’t want to leave her; what I want is for her to abandon her haughty, know-it-all attitude. So, yes, I would apply shock therapy and seriously spank her. If she didn’t understand and looked at it as abuse, then the divorce would follow.

I think the bottom (no pun intended) line is this: spanking has as many different meanings as there are participants. It is basically just another form of human contact and sexual expression which can covey an enormous range of emotions.

Spanking might be abuse, in some cases. In others, it has only a sexual meaning. For many, it serves as a boundry to establish acceptable behavior. What is for sure, however, is that no one has the right to come on this site or any other, and criticize others. To do so is to ignore the almost limitless range of people’s personalities and sexual prefrences. For every couple, spanking fulfills some need. If it’s not for you, then don’t do it. But hold the criticism for those who generously share their thoughts and experiences with others.

Should wives be spanked? Absolutely! After ten years of a most unsasatisfactory marriage, my husband and I decided that we would try spanking me whenever he thought I needed it. We decided that he was going to be the head of our household, that I needed to be respectful of him and that I needed to learn obedience. I can’t believe how much better our relationship has become. We don’t bicker or fight anymore because I know that will earn me a lesson with his belt over my bare backside. I may respectfully discuss a problem, but I’m not allowed to raise my voice in anger. If I should begin to lose control of my emotions, or I have a bad attitude, I am ordered into the corner with my panties down to give me a chance to rethink my position. After a time, I am allowed out of the corner, and I must present my bare bottom for discipline. I am then treated to a long, hard spanking with the punishment strap. It doesn’t take very long for me to be very sorry for my bad behavior, and promising to be better in the future. My husband has learned through trial and error that he must continue spanking me until I stop fighting the lash, and just accept it. I’m allowed to cry, beg and plead for him to stop, but he ignores my fuss until he is satisfied that I’ve gotten a good lesson and he is assured that I will have a next day ache as a reminder. Then I am returned to the corner, with my flaming, cherry red bottom on display so that I can think about my punishment, feel the results, and decide if what I did was worth it. I don’t get punishment spankings very much any more. I do get maintenance spankings to keep me on my best behavior. Initially, he decided he wanted me to have a maintenance spanking once a week. He was so happy with my demeanor that he changed the schedule to every other day. Since then my behavior has become even better. He will also during the course of the day come up to me, request that I bare my bottom and give me a few quick strokes with whatever is handy (a wooden spoon or rubber spatula) He says he does this to maintain my submission to him. I can only say from our experience, he is the boss, we both know it, I know what my limitations are, and I know what consequences I can expect if I don’t mind the line. I always have a choice, I can be obedient or I can be punished. It’s up to me. I have learned that it is not in my best interest to be haughty and disrespectful, that there is a more congenial way of conducting myself. I am proud to say that I am a well-spanked wife who is obedient and respectful to my husband, and I love it.

My husband has recently started spanking me regularly both for pleasure and discipline. He starts with his hand and then chooses which implement he wants to use. His favorite are his belt and a wooden scratching hand. I am placed over his knee and spanked until he decides it is enough for me to learn my lesson. His dominance is a huge turn-on for me although the spankings he can make quite painful and memorable. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

For a long time now I have tried to understand this near compulsive need of the population of women and men alike who find a need, sexual or otherwise to be spanked. What I have found, is that if there is one clear answer it is this: when we are young, we are taught that our self esteem and self worth lie in what the person(s) of opposite genders think of us. How we behave is not a reflection on ourselves, but on those that we have tied ourselves to through various relationships. ‘If Sally misbehaves it is because her husband does not control her enough or correctly’, ‘Jack is acting rather terribly, he and his wife must be having problems’ and for those not in relationships, we say things like ‘oh so-and-so just needs a good man/woman to show them love and how to behave’. If you ask me it is completely illogical to expect someone to willing give control of themselves over to another person, and I am honestly appalled at those who do this, willingly or not. Where is your own sense of self respect?

I am almost 4o. I have been married 20yrs now. My husband doesn’t like to spank. He believes it is not good for the butt. I on the other hand would like it hand, Belt, paddle as long as it was on the ass. Before you ask.. Yes I have told him and he said it makes him feel uncomfortable to do that. So… nothing happens. my email address is savacool32@aim.com

I do believe that husbands should discipline their wives. My husband spanks me when I misbehave, and I feel so much better afterwards. He has never hurt me. He just gives me a quick one to keep me straight, and it works. However, I don’t believe that it is right to make a woman cry or embarrass her in front of others. I think that is crossing the line.This sort of thing should be done in private. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. And I trust him entirely.

     My darling husband Edward and I have been blissfully maried for fiftysix years. Before we were even married he playfully spanked me whwn I would play like a naughty girl. At first on my skirt and later on the seat of my panties. We both loved it and got very aroused. It was almost always followed with making LOVE.      After we were married he spanked me when I was naughty ( which was aften) and always role playing for fun as foreplay before sex. Punishment spankings were needed once every one or two months and were sixty to a hundred spanks with a heavy office ruler or a leatherstrap on my bare bottom. I would cry like a baby and my bottom would burn and sting for a long time afterwords but I did deserve every one of them.     The  role game love play spankings were fun and wild. I would some times dress and act like a naughty little girl, sometimes like a lazy secretairy or student with best loved teacher, sometime like a slutty girl friend who was flirting with other friends , both strangers and his best friends. He would usually spank me on the seat of my shear nylon panties panties for about five minutes by hand and until I was wiggling an squrming on his lap and my burning cheeks showed a deep red through my thin silky panties. Then That excitinc sensation as heslowly slid my panties below mystinging bottom  and spanked even more by hand or strap ( usually bringing me to an orgassim0  and then wild no holes bared and any way  we could think of wonderful sex. We did this almost every night.     Itis odd that my bottom was usually mor red ant stinging after a fun sen spanking than after a punishment spanking but we both reacted entirely diferent   YES we ar in our very late seventies, but we are still into spankimg and still fucking/

So what do you do when your husband “misbehaves”? Men are NOT Gods… HA! Anything but. They are babies looking to be mothered.

I hate to tell all of you women out there who say you need to be “kept in line” …. you’re fools. Brainwashed idiots.

Why on earth do you think they are any better than you? They are sex driven morons that cannot even control their most basic of desires.

And if you are so blind to think that you are always the one needing to “be put in your place”, do you honestly believe that he is always right?

Morons.

Frankly I’m fascinated by the divergence of opinion pinned together by a clearly compelling subject. I wonder if the pontificators read the thread for long or did they prematurely post? tsk. I do adore the sound and thunder of a pompous pontificator. I find their earnest self righteousness makes for gratifying “detentions”. I got my first spanking from my high school principal. It reads like standard issue naughty Catholic school girl in plaid kilt& knee socks et al. Too embarrassingly cliche to talk about except that it led to a lifetime of provoking authority figures in the hope I’d be turned over the corner of an oak office desk. I keep that in check as a single successful self-employed professional with no desire for a lifetime position as junior partner. But I do have a long standing relationship with a friend of a friend who happens to be a cop. When I was still married he noticed my car pulled over, I was getting a ticket for speeding. The predictable hero-steps-in story ensues & I end up offering to buy him a coffee. He worked with my ex who was a dear myopic lawyer who conducted cold wars that lasted months. In another cliche moment, a cop in a donut shop jokingly offered me a way out “that satisfied his need to know I paid.” To his utter amazement, and my own, I accepted. That was 18 years ago. We’ve both changed marital status and lost touch for a year or so but he still spanks me when I happen on his radar screen. Once my licence had expired and I got a message from him about it. I found myself sexually intrigued that he tracked me. The down side is obvious but ridiculous, I’m always good for parking tickets w/o much conscious effort. I don’t usually see him more than three times a year. When he calls I know how the beginning of the visit will be. There’s a great deal of argument and attempts to dissuade him. I’ve learned certain defences & diversions which he lets me carry on about but he never relents. Now the anticipation can last a couple of weeks until he just shows up. The suspended feeling of anticipation makes me crazy. It can get so prolonged that sometimes the sound of a car door slamming outside makes my bottom tingle to be turned over his knee. I’m very certain that despite socio-economic/independence/maturity etc. that I feel more secure knowing someone’s watching over me and that I better be good. When a big brash Polish cop with hands like baseball gloves tells me he’s going to my bare bottom over his knee - mine buckle, and it’s about all I can think to think about.

We could never live together. So there’s no wife here but I get it when I need it bad. We have a friendly kind of Same-Time-Next-Year interest in each other lives, loves, wives etc. I can’t quite say why but I know we respect each other & it works.

My husband and I have been to gether for 9 years, married only 8 mo., and I encouraged him to begin spanking me. We prefer to call it “encouragement”, rather than punishment. We have a calendar that we keep in our bedroon closet, and there he keeps track of whatever demerits I may recieve during a two week period. (because we are divorced and only have private time away from the kids every 2 weekends).. I am also trying to loos weight, so for every 10 lbs. over my goal, I recieve a demerit as well. 1 demerit = 1 swat, repeat offenses recieve additional demerits, etc, etc. When he comes home from work on Friday, he is met w/ a showered, shaven, presentable wife dressed in a lingerie robe, dinner on the table and his encouragment tools on the bed. I cannot recieve my encourafgemnt until after we finish dinner, and we share a ‘dessert’ blow-job. Then we retire to the bedroom, where he will present the calendar, I count my demerits and tell him that I need his strong hand to be a better wife… I have _ demerits - and I remove my robe. He then positions me as he sees fit, and applies the encouragement to the degree that he feels necessary,I thank him for loving me enough to teach me, and we often retire to the living room to cuddle and watch a movie. Sometimes we spend the evening in the bedroom. Part of my thank you is to be completely available to him for his pleasure for the rest of the night. I do npt reserve the right to choose how he will take his pleasure, and he can take me any way he chooses as I willingly submit. The love is so sweet, and the lessons heartfelt, and later - the sex is unbelievably hot!…as well as my ripe red hiney. :P I love my husband, I trust my husbasnd, and I know we respect one another for what we both bring to our marriage.

Before we were married my husband explained that disobedience would not be tolorated and he would use his hand belt paddle or whatever he thought I nedded to learn the lesson.I loved the idea and have been a spanked wife for 8 years.I am spanked at least once a week and more if needed and they are severe and last a while.I am givin corner time to think about what I have done.Then I thank him by taking him in my mouth till he finishes or he takes my pussy or ass.I am his to use as he pleases and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

If either partner is less capable of intelligent thought, unable to be responsible for their own life, a wreck without purpose without their partner, then YES, spanking should be used. But then I ask - why would someone want to be with someone that weak, stupid, and incapable of being responsible for themself? Aren’t those the traits that separate us from animals? And if you are saying women are animals, then shame on you. This comes from a doctoral student that happens to be a woman.

My husband never spanked his first wife. When he met me I had sexual desires to be spanked lightly as part of foreplay. Once he trusted that I would not have him arrested he enjoyed spanking me in a sexual context. Over the years are marriage took a bad turn. He decided to start spanking me for real and demanding my obedience. He started giving me spankings when I angered or defied him or broke one of his rules. These spankings are very hard,very long, and he uses many paddles,belts,rods,etc. depending on how much he feels I should get.Our marrige is much better and I love him for caring about us enough to spank me. Modern society tends to emasculate men and it is easy for stressed working moms to be annoyed by their husbands. Spanking a woman tells her that you are the boss, she belongs to you, and you take that responsability seriousely. I am much better bahaved now and dont get as many punishment spankings.My husband still gives me two or three “maintenence spankings a week” even if I havent misbehaved. He says it “keeps me sweet” and reminds me to behave.It does not make me feel inferior or childlike. It makes me feel loved, treasured and femine.I used to almost hate my husband. Know I am considerate of him,and love him so deeply he is like a god to me. Our children dont know about this. The only know they actually live with the same two parents that made them!Plus we are happy!.Many of their friends dont have this . My husband has never spanked me in front of others. My submission to him and the spankings he gives me are private and intimate. However I wouldn’t judge those that do. If my husband decided I would benefit from a public spanking I would have no choice but to obey. Still I hope most husbands who do this would only spank their wives in front of trusted friends and family as this could jeapordize a job or get the husband arrested in some places.

I guess it depends on the relationship and how one views it. I am 82 years old, and was married to the same wonderful man for 53 years. My husband passed away 5 years ago. When we got married it was very different times, that is many more men wore the pants back then. In fact, some women my age might even say that when the men stopped wearing the pants in marriages that that’s when the divorce rate started going up.

Now my husband was a wonderful man and he treated me like a queen. However, there were times during our long marriage when I became so very unreasonable about one thing or another that I just wouldn’t listen to reason. My husband always had the perfect cure for this: he put me across his knee and administered a sound spanking to my bare behind! By the time he finished giving me a good tanning I was ready to listen to reason!

Should husbands spank their wives? I don’t know. All I can say is, my husband should spank me. And he does. It has a positive effect on me. Who knows why? Who cares? I know myself, and I’m going to live my life the way I want, not hesitate because of what other people think.

My husband is comfortable with spanking me in a sexual context. I’m trying to encourage him to use his own judgment to choose occasions to administer punishment spankings outside of a sexual context as well.

There’s nothing wrong if a man and his wife decide together that she should submit to him for their sex play, for her punishment and humiliation, for his gratification establishing his authority, or all three. It doesn’t mean anything other than what you both want it to mean. What that is is different for everyone.

I have been married to my wife now for 8 months, we both enjoy spanking as part of forplay and find it a real turn on. I feel however that as her husband i should be more assertive in bringing her into line when she needs it, by way of a punishment spanking. She is a young beautiful strong willed women, and sometimes speaks out of line to me, with what only can be discribed as foul language, this i have to say displeases me even though i know it the heat of the moment and she doesn’t mean it. She will also from time to time go against my wishes and do something she knows will anoy me. I feel on these occassions i should correct her behaviour by way of handing out a proper spanking. Even though i have only ever threatend it I think it would add to our relationship and do her some good, it would also sort out a problem instantly in stead of us being moody with each other for the next couple of days. I would like some advice from DD couples, man or wife on how to go about implementing this in to our marriage. Should i discuss this with her first, or next time a situation occurs should i carry out my threats with a sound spanking? You can email me on DrRattle@hotmail.co.uk

To Steve: Definitely spank your wife! My husband spanks me when I misbehave and our marriage is very strong and happy. When she has a bad attitude or a foul mouth, you should keep her in line by spanking her. Her behavior will definitely improve and she will become much more submissive and obedient. Try checking out the Loving Domestic Discipline blog. It’s a great site that deals exclusively with husbands disciplining their wives.

I would love to meet a woman to become my partner and accept dicipline punishment spankings when she gets out of hand. Scotland, Fife, 07908 369986

yes, wives should be spanked when they get out of hand. It gives us a sense that our man can care for us.

Yes. I think wives should be spanked. Spankings should be both out of love & corection. Sexual spankings are also very important in a happy marrage too. I would love to find the right man to obey & please. Woman was created for mans pleasure. I am not advicating abuse. But a Godly man would put God 1st and with God 1st, he would not abuse but treat his wife with love. A woman’s bottom is basically made to be spanked. How do you find a good man? I want to obey & serve a good, Godly man that also believes in regular spankings for his wife. Are you out there?

Well, saying “wives” in such a general term… it’s impossible to answer. I believe it’s up to the specific couple to decide what’s good for them, what works and what doesn’t. A lot of the replies here are in the erotic-spanking category, so in ways it seems it’s more about “play” than anything else. Do observe the most replies ! Also this “they” and “we”, I do not fancy. I won’t ever talk for any other woman than myself, and my man will speak for no man but himself. I like to be spanked by him, because I feel that I need it. Wives don’t need to be spanked, because all wives are different. Some women might need it, but that’s a different question.

A woman should be spanked, my husband has and will spank me if he has too. If more husbands put their wife across their knee there wouldnt be as many divorces

I never thought I would say this but yes wives should be spanked occasionally. I have been in my relationship for 15 years, 7 of those years i was in charge, the last 8 it has been my husband. I feel more feminine, i am very happy, and yes occasionally I am spanked.

Wives should only be spanked if they want to be. However much a man may desire to spank his wife, it must be consensual.

I have always adored being spanked, but only considered the idea of being spanked for punishment rather than purely for erotic pleasure about three years ago, when i started reading about it on the internet. When I suggested the idea to my husband he took to it with great enthusiasm, and it has greatly contributed to domestic harmony.

I find being spanked for punishment much more satisfying and much more exciting than being spanked purely for sexual arousal, and my husband thoroughly enjoys “taking it out on your bottom” as he puts it, when he is annoyed with me.

Absolutely spank your wife - Your marriage depends on it. She needs her bottom lathered every time she disrespects you - Watch how her attitude changes. Trust me I have my bottom lathered each and every time I act up.

I LOVE to be spanked….just before my husband fucks me good. Should I be spanked for discipline…only if he wants it back!!

I am divorced and was just dating someone for four years. I asked my boyfriend to spank me when I was out of line, stubborn, etc. He would only spank me for arousal when he wanted when he wanted. He spanked me when we were having sex as well.

I really want to be spanked for being out of line, or when I just get sad or depressed and feel like doing nothing. I was never spanked as a child and truly believe that my attitude would completely changed if I was put over the knee, had my bottom bared, and spanked rapidly. I really think it would put me in line. It is not a fantacy, I really feel as if it would do me good.

I have a very bad attitude because I split up with my boyfriend…I found out he cheated on me and just used me for sex. It really hurt and its been awhile since we split up. I cant get myself to do anything. I was a straight almost a straight “A” college student, success in my career, and very positive. I no longer have this attitude.

I don’t want to be spanked for enjoyment, I want to be spanked for discipline and maybe it will help me straighten my attitude.

I tried explaining this to my boyfriend while we were dating and I just didnt feel comfortable with it. Now I want to talk about it.

Is there something wrong with me because I think it will assist me. If it works, I really want my “wrong doings” corrected.

Am I crazy?

i am not married yet, but i have been in a good relationship for year. I am a very dominaring women outside the home and have no problem standing up to people, but i love to be dominated in the home. My boyfriend knew i liked to be spanked in bed and now he trusts that i wont call the police on him, so when i do something he doesnt like, disobey him, or wear something he doesnt approve of, I get spanked hard… and i love it. its a secret turn on for me. after he’s done spanking me, he makes me sit naked in the “chair” with my legs spead by bondage so i cant close them.he puts handcuffs on me with my hands behind my back and when he feels like it he comes over and fucks me or fingers me as hard as he wants til i scream. i usually have to stay there for at least an hour. sometimes he lets his friends at me, and i have to take it, but sometimes i love it. I believe that a man should be the dominant person in the relationship. i dont mind the way he punishes me, but sometimes he fucks me so hard it hurts and the next time i break a rule i remember whats comig to me so i am a good girl for a while.

one time i went out to the club in an outfit he didnt approve of and he saw me talking to another guy at the club. when we got home, he put me in the chair, in the normal position and fucked me all night. it was amazing for the first hour, btu he left me there for about 4 hours. and he did whatever he wanted to me. He made me give him head, and cummed all over my body, and made me swollow him. he even let his friends at me and made me eat out another girl. I never though i would ever eat out a girl, but now i love it. and while i ate her out he fucked me hard. both of them cummed all over me. at the end of it all i was covered in cum from his friends and the girl and i wasnt allowed in bed or to shower. so i slept in the chair with everybody’s juices all over me. now i beg for him to invite his friends.

i still get spanked for being bad, and i try to avoid it, but when it happends i dont mind. I appreciate him teaching me a lesson i wont forget.

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Interesting topic. I spank my wife; we’ve been together for twenty years. Before we were married we lived together for about six months. We went to her parents’ home state to get married and spent a week or so with them before the wedding. Her Dad pointed to a belt he kept on a coat hanger and told her that he figured I should have it now, which puzzled me a lot. The next day he had a serious dicussion with me, telling me that she had been “boy crazy”. She’d already told me that she was the local high school punchcard, so I wasn’t surprized. What surprized me was that Dad told me that if the marriage was going to work, I’d have to keep her in line, and the only way to do that was with the belt, so he gave it to me.

That was weird enough; but when I told her what he’d said, she told me that I should do what I had to do.

Things were fine for about six months; then I saw her flirting heavily with a friend of mine. I talked to her about it, but she ignored me. Then she started coming home late from work. Then one night she came home and told me that she’d met a guy and gone to a motel with him. I had a sudden flash of anger and the next thing I knew, I had her naked and was whipping her butt with the belt. When I was finished, I turned her over and we had great sex for hours, although her backside was pretty painful.

So it’s been a couple times a month since; I pretty much let her decide when, if she comes home late, or flirts, or drinks too much. Her Dad was right: It works.

You need to realize that a woman is a man’s property. If she disobeys him, she must be turn over his knee and spanked with his bare hand. It is the only way he will get through to her stubborn ways. She needs to be broken and reigned in to conform to his ways.

The 82 year old woman who said that the divorce rate started going up when men stopped being the boss in marriages is 100%.

I am 87 years young, and was married for 62 years. Yes indeed, back then it was surely very different times. Back then one could quite often see or hear many examples of husbands spanking their wives in movies, on radio shows (later on TV), in magazine stories, in newspaper comics, and even in many ads for products like coffee that appeared in newspapers and magazines.

My late husband was also a wonderful man, but when I did not listen to reason, or when I threw a temper tantrum (which I am now ashame to admit was all too often). It was usually not ritual or anything. It was actually more of a spur of the moment thing…a few whacks during an argument, when I was clearly wrong or when I became out of control during the fight. he would take my arm, turned me and give me a few hard smacks on my rear.

Then there was usually a pause where I caught my breath and calmed down…and then with difficulty (to avoid more smacks) we finished the argument with me acting much more calmly. A spanking was helpful in that it made me stop and say “Whoa, I need to take it down a few notches and stop yelling”…which helped the communication process during the rest of the discussion.

There was also always a hint of “You’d better calm or you know what will happen.” in the look he gave me towards the end of the argument.

There were however a few times when I didn’t calm down right away and those times I found out exactly what that look meant: my husband then put me across his knee and gave me “a good paddywhacking” as he called it.

If more men spanked their wives today, it would surely put most divorce lawyers out of work!!!

I’d like to offer a little advice to the men who do decide to give their wives a discipline spanking. It’s not as easy as you think. It can be a very hard thing to do if the wife does not really want to be spanked. So if the husband is built rather small or if he’s very out-of-shape, my advice is not to try it.

I’m a bachelor (who will be getting married for the first time in 9 months), however, through the years I did have the occasion to administer two discipline spankings: the first was about 8 years ago to my niece who was 19 at the time, when she spent a summer living in my care while on break from college, and she disappeared for 4 days without so much as a phone call.

The second spanking I administered was about a year ago to my wife-to-be who went behind a good friends back and made a lot of trouble with her big mouth.

Both of these spankings were very well-deserved!

I’m 6’1” and believe me it wasn’t easy keeping either of them in place across my lap while I soundly spanked them, so I could only imagine just how difficult or even impossible it might be for a man who is around say 5’5” or so to do the same. If a woman doesn’t want to be spanked, she may fight you tooth and nail! Of course once you start laying on the hard spanks, her tune will change very quickly! Yes indeed, a spanking is a perfect punishment for a grown woman, but it’s only for the men who candle handle them!