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Married Men Who Have Gay Sex In Public

• Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual

The image of gay men haunting public restrooms and rest stops is a cliché.

Not that it doesn't happen. Often in the past I suspect it was in many towns and for many gay men the only place they knew of.

And many still seek a moment's anonymous pleasure in parks and similar places because it is convenient or they enjoy the thrill.

For the 21st century closet case - the married gay or bisexual man - on his way home to the wife semipublic venues are the only place he can go to have sex with other men.

"The vast majority of men who come here are married," said one longtime parking lot user, who like the other men interviewed there recently would not tell his name because of concerns ranging from embarrassment to fears of gay-bashing.

"I can't tell you how many guys I've had here who were wearing wedding bands, with baby seats in the car and all kinds of kids' toys on the floor. It's on their way home and they don't have to get involved in a relationship or any gay lifestyle or social circles. They don't even have to buy anyone a drink or be seen in a gay bar. They just tell the wife, 'Honey, I'll be home an hour late tonight.' "

A Sex Stop on the Way Home

Richard Evans Lee
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I used to work in an adult bookstore in Montana, there were always so many married men there into gay sex, and always hitting on me. It was funny to run into them at the grocery store and watch them scurry away before they were recognized while shopping with the wifey. yeah, like I'm gonna go up to them and say "you look so differnet without a dick in your mouth...", lol!

Posted by: Anonymous | September 23, 2005 05:44 PM

Yep. The horny married men who like guys are everywhere. Even in big cities. They'll be with us always I guess unless this society gets kinder and smarter than it ever will in my lifetime.

Posted by: Tight Sweater Boy | September 24, 2005 07:25 PM

I can't stand married men hitting on me. I always say fu_k off you have a wife if you didn't want her then you should have thought of that before you married her.

Posted by: Nomad | September 27, 2005 03:20 PM

Yeah, I like to have a guy work my dick over. Sure beats the little woman. She does not like to do it anyway so I figure I am doing her a big favor. As for the guy who claims he HATEs married guys hitting on him, yeah, sure. What a crock. He is just running his mouth. My being married seems to make me a whole lot more popular with the gay guys. It is a cheap thrill and I like it. 10x better than wasting your time fooling around with another woman.

Posted by: Joe | October 3, 2005 12:48 AM

i like being screwed by a guy and thinking 'yup, he preferred me to his wife or girlfriend'.

Posted by: 'iona' | October 3, 2005 10:47 AM

If the guy's married and doesn't get blown at home, yet craves blowjobs, that's fine with me. I've taken care of a few of them, and, sure, they're cheating on their wives, but that's their problem. Their cock is all I care about, and the blowjob is all they want from me. No strings attached, and plenty of appreciation for a job well done.

Posted by: Joe Blob | October 3, 2005 06:33 PM

If they like oral sex from men then they aren't straight. They are bisexual. A man who cheats on his wife - any spouse - is simply worthless. Any guy who gets his jollies sucking cheaters off isn't gay but a fag.

Posted by: Pities You | October 3, 2005 06:41 PM

How interesting that it assumed that wives do not (whether the women publicly admit it or not)know.How particularly interesting the assumption that marriage is predominantly about sex and there could be nothing in the relationship that is fulfilling, rewarding enriching or loving and is only a cover against societal prejudice. Granted for some men it may be about prejudice but could it not also be about a deep and true love for others. Men and women bring different skills, expressions, and emotions to relationships. Why can a man not be able ( whether he is straight, gay or bi-sexual)to choose whom he prefers to love and choose whom he prefers sexually? The two are not the same thing and I have heard more than one man say sex is only sex. Well, love is is about love. His male partners are anonymous interludes. He invests nothing in them. So he gets his rocks off with an anonymous mouth from time to time. The child seat and the toys in the back of the car are not decorations and it is unlikey his children were immaculately conceived. Maybe we should all be a little less rigid in our ideas about what is right and what is wrong when thinking about and defining realtionships.

Posted by: Susan | October 4, 2005 02:34 PM

Lady, you may not care who your man sleeps with but if mine were unfaithful I'd throw him out and find one who did see a connection between love and sex.

Posted by: Proud Gay Man | October 4, 2005 02:40 PM

Men who service married men are the best! Wish they were in my town

Posted by: Luke | October 6, 2005 09:45 PM

i would be the "wife at home" who did NOT know...not until i found gay porn and chat etc on my man's computer...i have been researching this now on the 'net...it completely astounds me (and scares me too) to realize how many married men don't consider this cheating...if i "serviced" men at a local truck stop...my loving adoring husband would be furious...it IS cheating...whether it is anonymous or not...justifying it by saying you want to be married and have that life but need a guy to suck you off or have anal sex with is wrong...cheating is cheating no matter WHO you do it with...i have gay and lesbian friends and relatives...i don't care about someone's sexual orientation unless it directly affects me...and this does...my husband didn't use condoms (i guess he felt his behavior was risky already-i honestly don't know) but he has put my health at risk...and betrayed me too....i love giving oral sex...i give it often, he knows i enjoy it...he cums i swallow, we have what i thought was a great sex life...sex often, every day if not several times on other days, i enjoy anal sex and so does he....and you know i would love him no matter what...he is important to me...but what he doesn't seem to realize or care about is the effect this has on me...he has taken away MY choices...my right to choose what kind of relationship i want to be in...there is no honor in that...i don't care if you are bi, gay or straight...when two people think they are monogamoous-they SHOULD be....it is a question of integrity...not one of sexual orientation...why don't these men understand that?

Posted by: been there | October 11, 2005 03:50 PM

I have never failed to convince my wife friends husbands to have sex with me: most times it happens only as a matter of curiosity, because all of then are straitgh guys. For some the chassing game can take months, others are willing rigth away to try. The secret is that I love my wife and they know it, so there are no complications after our sex encounters.

Posted by: Ludwig | October 11, 2005 10:12 PM

the interesting thing though is that when i was married, i never had sex with other men. it only started after i got a divorce. i have another close frind of mine who is currently married but has sex with other men. although both of us can be classified as bi, we have never had sex with each other and the thing is- we never will. its a very interesting topic. hope you hair more from you guys...

Posted by: Trini | October 12, 2005 08:39 PM

Wow. This is sorta sick. Gay men who suck off married men, and do not care as long as they have a dick in their mouths. You aren't being gay, you're being absolute faggots. Grow up. To the husbands cheating on their wives, shame on you. Marriage is a vow to commitment, to be faithful, to be loyal. A real man keeps his promises and honors his integrity. Do you understand how pathetic it is? Living double lives? Betraying your wives? Your children? I understand living in a society that condemns homosexuality is difficult for those who prefer men over women. But that gives you no right to deceive the women you married, to treat them as masks to cover your own insecurities. They deserve better. Heterosexual marriages by gay/bisexual men are reality. But that doesn't mean we should accept it. It's a sad, disgusting result of what happens when society pushes rigid gender roles too far.

Posted by: Hum. | October 15, 2005 04:12 AM

I had never touched a Man untill my wife got a life-like dildo and convinced me to suck it and insert it in my ass. After that I just had find out what realy went on in Book stores. I was suprise to find many nice looking married guys there just looking for another cock to play with. Have made a few [select] sex buddys. Enjoy sucking them and being sucked. Also suprised as to how many of "US" want to do it in front of the wife.

Posted by: Shaved Steve | October 15, 2005 12:13 PM

"After that I just had find out what realy went on in Book stores." Bravo. Great excuse to cheat on your wife. I'm sure your children will be proud of what their father does when he goes to the bookstore. To play with dick and get herpes, then transmit all kinds of diseases on their poor, clueless mother. Morality in this country isn't in trouble because of gay marriage. It's because guys like this are _encouraged_ to get married. Woo girls, marry them, have kids. Even if they don't have the emotional maturity and sense of responsbility to commit to marriage. There's something called personal integrity, honoring the vow you made to your wife on your wedding day, just because you're chasing men - and not other girls - doesn't mean you're not cheating on your woman. "It's okay as long as she don't find out." That's horseshit. You're a coward. You're selfish. You're doing a great disservice to yourself, your wife, and your children. Shame on you.

Posted by: Hum. | October 15, 2005 09:38 PM

Read DOWN LOW SECRETS by Kevin Ames. It is about black men who live double lives. I got a lot of insight about bisexual men from reading this book. If men love men, they love men. I just don't understand why they mislead women. I wish them happiness, but I don't want a man like that for a husband.

Posted by: sarah | October 16, 2005 04:59 AM

Very Interesting reading! I have been doing some research in this area and I want to know one thing and one thing only.....If a Married man walks into a adult bookstore, Is it possible that he only went there to Spank one out while watching a video? Or do I need to open my eyes and know that the only thing that goes on at these places are Gay sex or prostitute sex through Glory holes? Help....I need answers from those who really know the truth. Thanks

Posted by: THEWIFE | October 20, 2005 01:03 AM

Married men having sex with other men is fascinating to me. It seems, from what many have told me, that sex with their wives is fine, but with a man they feel it is incredible. I have questioned them on the meaning of incredible. They state that with their spouses there is a certain ¨inhibition¨ that is not there with another willing straight or gay male. They seem to feel it is more daring, more extreme, powerful ... what they say they do not get from a woman. I believe in some respects this is true. Society, in general, has created the belief that women will not go to extremes, and many women believe this, but as we know, this is not true in every cases. I believe the thrill comes from the anonimity, the ilicit aspect of it, the fact that it is with someone of the same gender, power plays into this as well as - the straight male showing his superiority - and that roughness, raw, primal quality married men feel they get in a man to man encounter but is lacking in their sexual encounters with their wives. As far as agreeing with this practice? If the wife is not aware, I cannot condone it. The woman is living with a lie, is making decisions base on misinformation or lack there of, and is being exposed to possible diseases. As for the willing male participants, even if they want to do it, they are being exploited, used (though it may be mutual use), and in the end, they too are risking contracting some form of std.

Posted by: Andrew | October 20, 2005 07:22 AM

I always hated being (cruised) by gay-or bi guys. I guess I know how women feel, getting ogled. I feel more safe in a lez bar, hehe, it was my wife who freaked them out. She was 7 months pg, and I worked security at many of the Dallas gay clubs. She hated that. Hunks who she had no chance with. We went into Sue Ellen's, and she had mullet kindof hairstyle, big belly, and me, lol. ok went off topic. Yes, guys say antigay things, but, you'll find many slipping their (for wife only) thru them glory holes. Or visa versa.

Posted by: bgb | October 22, 2005 10:35 PM

I'm a married guy who has had sex with a male escort twice - it all started because of my incessant curiosity about wanting to meet a really pretty transvestite who would be wearing a full skirt & a whole load of frilly petticoats underneath, putting my hand there and feeling something rock hard which I could then put in my mouth. I enjoyed it so much the first time I had to go back for seconds - I still get that frisson of excitement when I think of kissing his neck & cheeks and feeling that ever so faint touch of stubble. If I cheated with a woman I don't think I'd be able to hide my guilt but with a guy it just feels different.

Posted by: Helene | October 25, 2005 08:34 AM

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Richard

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