Virtual crushes, loving someone you never met
• Amorous Web, Cyber Sex , • Gender Studies , • Heterogeneous , • Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual
In my personal weblog I wrote about the possibility for feeling passionately about someone that you've never met. Their weblog or other online presence leaves you wanting them. Maybe it is (as has sometimes grabbed me) a mix of compassion and clarity. Perhaps the life they describe is close to your fantasies. Or they are just a very sexy writer.
What about the ones who never had a chance to get away? The guys who seduce you with a thirty word personal ad, a seductive profile, an enlivening weblog or witty rounds of IMs? You don’t read them with intent to fall for them. Their charm is unanticipated. With the instant messages and profiles there is an implied promise. In online forums, groups, clubs and blogs they are just typing away. ...
I’ve had my online crushes. They’ve been benign. An evening when I wished, really wished … (OK, maybe a few nights). I was never fool enough to give they feelings weight. The reasoning part of me knew my feelings were just the stirrings of imagination. I’ve never felt there’d be sense in pursuing a long distance relationship even with someone I’d met. When I was dating using the web the guys who were too far away did make me sad. All the good ones seemed to live far, far away.
Have you ever fallen, if only temporarily in love, with man, woman, boy or girl you know only through the web, had a virtual crush?
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Posted by: Liz | June 18, 2004 08:08 AM