They Never Ever Want to Have Sex
• Sexual Health
Asexuals Revisited
She has a new boyfriend and like most of us when we've found a new lover she's overcome with mushy sentiment.
But neither of them is like most of us:
But while Victoria's gushing affection may seem typical of any budding relationship, there is a difference. She has no interest in having sex, ever! David can understand that. He has no sexual desires either.
"Sex is never a thing that it made sense for me to do," says David.
Not that I'm going laugh at or mock their claimed asexuality.
Genuinely asexual persons I wish nothing but the best. They will be laughed at or regarded as spooky misfits. Perhaps some people escape both the social programming and the biological firmware that makes sex important to the rest of us.
Falsely asexual people I can only pity. If asexuality is just a ploy to let a person hide from sexual needs that they are comfortable with or simple fear of rejection one day the self-denial will have ugly consequences.
I've known a few people who spent years acting as if they had no sexuality. Eventually in each the repressed needs asserted themselves so violently that it left the person with a mind that might as well have been run through a meat grinder.
If you really are asexual: good luck. If you aren't: stop fooling yourself now.
Comments
Posted by: Happy Hedonist | September 25, 2005 07:43 PM
Posted by: devils advocate | September 26, 2005 12:42 AM